What would yall do?

So a few days ago, I told my husband that we needed to separate because him not very participating in house chores him not giving you know the kids and my attention when he gets home. He’s always on his phone and him yelling at the kids all the time. He is now changing for the most part but he has done this before. We were going to do IVF I have all the medications. Should I keep them or just get rid of them ? I’m not sure what to do

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I mean, I wouldn’t get rid of them, but I also wouldn’t believe a few days of changing.

Ya i would wait to make sure it’s going to be a long term change. But with guys like this unless they make a life change, It’ll only be temporary. You always having to threaten him to get him to help is not healthy. These guys now adays are so selfish. They think just because they work they’re free to be bums at home. I hope for your families sake that he truly is making it a habit to contribute to the family. His time and attention!

I wouldn’t bring more children into that situation personally. I’m living the similar. My husband does the house chores though

Literally sits on his phone all night from the time he gets home aside from when he’s cooking dinner

I don’t even sleep in the same room with him anymore

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NHS job

Anyone work for the NHS and does 12 hour shifts? How do you work around childcare and your partners job?

He has no respect for anything to do with me.

Husband and I decided to separate 3 days ago. I've been sleeping on the floor in the kids room, and we both have to stay in the same apartment for a while. He wont stop pushing little things and I am reaching my limit. Photos in comments

Toddlers

How often are your toddlers asking for food? My oldest who is 3 just finished a whole plate of food and not even 10 minutes later he’s requesting more food. I know he’s going through a growth spurt, but how do you respond to this.

Is this normal?

Is it just my husband that does this? He is able to work from home via his computer and in the mornings and evenings he is on there doing his job. When he is done for the day he tends to stay in the room and either play video games or watch something. He will occasionally come out and play with the girls for a few minutes and that’s it but when I really need him he says he is busy. My daughters are both 1 year old now and I am just wondering how much involvement should he have with them now?
Idk if this is the norm or not…..

Saying NO to buying toys etc

5 year old is getting really envious of others. He is obsessed with items that other kids have at school. I am pestered daily to buy these things in a different style when we already have 3 others. I have seen parents just buying stuff their kid likes which I don't necessarily agree with even when i can afford it. How do you deal with it?

Identity crisis?

Am I the only sahm who feels like they have lost their identity??? I don’t make money for my family, when I used to make great money. But I refuse to drop my under a year old baby off with strangers.
My husband works so much. But I have no control over bringing in money and I’m a control freak type of person! I feel l like I’m losing my grip because we are kind of broke, but day care would only eat up my income anyways! So what’s the point. I’m a workaholic and now I’m just a twitching bum.
I wish I could work from home but so far that’s a fake dream. I’m almost 9 months pp, and I just need to know these awful mood swings and depression will end soon! Send wine!