Birthday blues 💔😭

I turn 34 tomorrow and I can't even toilet train my own child. I feel like such a failure

He's 4.5 and had a major regression out of the blue. I don't know why or how but Ive spent my entire day cleaning up after his accidents. He won't tell me why and I've never felt so guilty.

I have the whole day to spend with him and I know it's just going to be a repeatd nightmare of today. I feel so ashamed that I don't want to spend by birthday with my child cause I'll just end up cleaning up his wees and poos. How bad is that? 💔😭

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That’s just part of parenting. Don’t feel bad’ I’m sure it’ll get better! Keep trying and keep encouraging him. & happy early birthday! I hope you enjoy your day tomorrow.

If it makes you feel better my son wasn’t fully day time potty trained until 5/6 and he’s about to be 8 and still isn’t night time potty trained.

Boys are harder I have both a girl and a boy and my girl was potty trained well before 5. Closer to 2/3.

It’s hard. Both of my kids are autistic. So, things are very hard sometimes.

Don’t feel bad it’s a frustrating but eventually you will get there. Don’t stress otherwise he will get stressed too .. probably choose half day potty training instead of whole day .. start like afternoon 4hrs and increase every week .. he probably need more time and reassurance..

Same, sorry I know its hard ur not a failure at all keep trying and talking through everything and breaking it down step by step one day things started clicking suddenly for my daughter it takes a longer time than others for certain things every child is unique!

Doesn't help that his cousins are the same age and completely toilet trained. My sister keeps telling me that I must be doing something wrong to make him regress

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