Am I being unreasonable…?

I don’t think this is unreasonable when you have made it clear… we work very hard to get the routine with our little ones!

Our family are very aware of our wishes and if we go out, or round to people’s homes we usually do lunch also.

On the odd occasion we will go out on an evening but we are always home by 7! It is also usually only for an occasion such as a birthday.

You aren’t the one who needs to be flexible! Flexibility works both ways. Sorry to hear little one won’t take a bottle! My nephew is the same and it’s a tough ride sometimes when you need some personal space!

Can you stay home, order a take away and stick to the routine if they mention flexibility say, the baby needs aren't flexible, ours are so plans should be flexible to her/him for now.

You would be flexible if it was really needed like if it was your brother's wedding I'm sure you wouldn't say you needed to be home by 7 because you would want to be at his wedding....but why is there a need to be flexible here? There just isn't a need? Go out for lunch instead it's such an easy fix and then you can enjoy your evening knowing routine is still in place and you and baby are happy. Why should you be put out here. Seems like they are demanding flexibility for no reason at all. I would say outright that you won't go at 5pm as there just isn't a need to go so late but would happily go at 3pm or earlier! In fact because it's in laws it shouldn't be you that argues it at all - it should be your husband that advocates for you but mostly express it as being for your baby here in my opinion.