Bf and I arguing over where to live

We want to move in together but he’s insistent we move into his place and it just doesn’t make any sense to do so. My place wins in every single category of consideration. Cheaper, better neighborhood, bigger, I own/he rents, more parking, fenced in yard, has a moving kitchen, doesn’t have a roommate… I could spend hours explaining why my house makes more sense. But he won’t listen to it and he just keeps saying my place needs too much work. And it does need some work, but I can call a repair man if he doesn’t want to do the work, which is his main concern. He says there’s no way he’ll live in this house though, and I think that means I need to end the relationship because I can’t sell my house to go live in a tiny, overpriced apartment… am I being too dramatic?

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Dealbreaker for sure- because wtf is wrong with you??

Sounds to me like he’s jealous

You're definitely not being dramatic. Put yourself first!

His a kid. Get rid of him. Dealbreaker for sure. I would be fixing the house up with you and making it “our home”

We definitely agree with you.. Something is wrong with him- send him back to whatever he came from. He can’t fix anything anyway.

Stay exactly where you are! It’s a deal breaker. Why would he expect you to get rid of a house you OWN for an APARTMENT?? Ridiculous. He sounds a lil jealous and controlling. And if he decides to move in to the house, don’t put his name on it. He sounds like he could potentially turn and use that against you with how he’s actin now.

I bet he feels vulnerable moving into a house you own and he doesnt because if it goes wrong he'll be the one that needs to move. But 10000% dont give that up, you need the stability!! Xxx

Don’t give up your home to move somewhere he rents.

It makes ZERO sense, and if he’s not aware of that like dead set. Just think whatever else you might not see eye to eye on. Maybe a blessing in disguise

Definite deal breaker for me! When my husband moved into my house (he was a boyfriend of 4 months at the time) he put all of his time and energy into fixing it up for me ☺️ a year later we sold it and bought a much bigger place together with the profits. Why would you sell up to move into a rental?? That makes no sense.

Could you rent your place and see if the move in makes sense and if not just move back to your place?

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