Feeling so overwhelmed

I have gone back to work this last week. I’m struggling so much. My baby has just started nursery and she’s finding it really hard. She’s also ill with a terrible cold and conjunctivitis at the moment. Sleep is horrendous - I’m getting maybe 4/5 very broken hours having to co sleep. It feel so hard. Last night I argued with my partner so badly and I feel like our relationship is taking such a hit. He reassures me and says all the right things I just feel a bit numb/sad this last week/2weeks. I’m also considering stopping breastfeeding after doing it exclusively for a year.
Just wondered if anyone is feeling the same/similar? X

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I have felt like this - my baby is now 11 months but started nursery at just under 6 months whilst I went back to work . We caught every bug going!! It’s so so hard when working too

I literally have logged on to write a similar post. I don't want to give up my career and I do love what I do but I'm sat here most nights ( having been sick for about a month with the nursery bugs one after another) wondering if there's any way I could be a SAHM .

You aren't alone . I'm finding it horrifically difficult.

I send love xx

I known it's really hard right now, but it will get better, I promise. My LO started nursery just before turning 9months in January and it was sonhard to leave him behind the first few weeks as he would cry 😢 he also got ill so many times with cold and stomach bugs back to back so nights were horrible and I had ti miss work quote a few times because he had to stay home. He just had a cold this week again and this time it's been so mild! He is definitely building his immune system now and it's only going to get better from here 😊 he also loves nursery now and everyone loves him there too! He eats so well there and it's building so many social skills. Just hang in there, you'll see the light soon again!

Thank you everyone! It helps to know that we’re not alone and it’ll get better ❤️

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With my first, my partner stayed with me in the hospital overnight and helped me a lot with the baby so I had a pretty smooth recovery and was up and running 5 days postpartum.

Now, we need to decide if we should ask family members to come over (from abroad) and help with our toddler or we try to do the coordination/ management ourselves.

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