SAHMS- does your SO hold a grudge you aren’t contributing or was it just the best option?

I wasn’t planning on being a sahm but the minute my daughter was born I couldn’t leave her. My husband supported my decision 100% and we both knew it was best for our family. We have agreement that we both have our roles that are equally important. There are a few fights here and there when we talk about finances, usually when it comes to what we can afford. But overall no grudges, we both agree that me raising our kids is the best for us. It will be a hard adjustment for you though, I had a whole career before my daughter came and it took me awhile to come to terms with this. But seeing my daughter everyday is so worth it, sacrifices and all!

I really like working but my whole check would go towards childcare or my husband and I would never see each other because of opposite schedules. Our conversation was about how I'd feel being at home vs working and ultimately after having my baby I felt like going back to work would make me feel burnt out/irritated and I don't wanna bring that kind of energy around if I can avoid it. My baby was also born in July and my mat leave ended right before the holidays which meant we wouldn't have been able to visit family (it's just us where we live) and I felt like those memories (even tho my baby won't remember) we're just too valuable to pass up. She's our first, we waited a long time to have her, and she's only this little once. I have the rest of my life to work and if we're fortunate enough to swing it then we're both all for it. My husband also realizes how hard it is to be a sahm and acknowledges and appreciates all the work that goes into it (which is how it should be) so I'm very lucky 🥰

Also not working doesn't mean you're not contributing. You're sacrificing your career and independence and putting full trust in your partner so that you can keep your child alive and make sure they're growing healthy and happy ON TOP of whatever house work needs to get done and whatever else you have going on. Having a baby is one of the most life changing things to go through and whether you work or not, your partner should be supportive and not make you feel like you're not doing enough