Feeling lonely

Good evening I was just wondering if I’m the only one who feels more lonely now that I’m pregnant than I did prior. I don’t know if it’s hormones. I assumed stupidly my child’s father would be more involved in happy about the pregnancy, but he seems to never wanna talk about it. I don’t know. Maybe I’m just depressed.

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When you try to talk to him about it what does he say?

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I think your best thing for you to shift your focus away from him and towards yourself. He may have an avoidant coping style and I can see that being painful because you were expecting him to be more involved and happy about the pregnancy. The sadness is because your expectations have not been met. I would advise you to start focusing on your own emotional state. You can be excited and happy about the pregnancy despite how he behaves. Are there other people in your life who are also excited? Is there anything else that is going well for you? Look for the positive.

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