What would you do?

Work part time. My fiance pays for everything anyway, then whatever I make is just a nice extra. I love what I do and I felt like I was going insane not being able to do it

I have that same opportunity but still work. You never know what future brings and having a personal economical safety makes that I could provide for my kids even if life stops being so nice to me one day. We could split with my husband or he also could die (that's a sad though but it definitely could happen). In any case I won't be in an economic struggle

I’m a SAHM. I don’t miss working. Financially it made more sense for me to stay home otherwise I’d have been spending my entire salary to never see our daughter except for an hour or two each evening, and weekends. Work will always be there, but she will never be this small again. And I’m only doing this once.
Will likely start working again once she starts school but maybe not full time so I can still be present.

I’m currently a SAHM indefinitely and for me I don’t plan on working outside of the home till my kids are out of school and even then it would be part time to go straight into savings. I happily babysit on occasion but not weekly anymore I just like focusing on my own kids rn.

go to work, after few years you will feel lonely and frustrated seeing other mums working and will loose confidence to go back to work. you need to be happy in the end of day

I had the choice and chose to stay home. I don’t regret it at all. I have an education and a career to fall back on if things ever changed.

My daughter is too young right night and I’m pregnant with another baby but when they are school age I’ll probably work part time for the social aspect of things and a lil more extra change plus I enjoy working as long as it’s not high pressure

I thought a lot about this scenario even though it was all just a thought experiment as my husband is currently the stay at home parent. I have a really good job (both pay/benefits and the job itself) in a rather niche field. If I left, the chance of being able to get back in to the same type of job is slim and would likely be impossible without relocating. I wish I had more time with my son, but I also have worked really hard to get in to my field and working is good for my mental health for a lot of reasons.

We don’t technically need my salary but I do work outside the home. It works for our family and for me personally.

This is/was me. Just applied for my first full time job in 4 years 🥰 loved being able to be a SAHM, feel very privileged to have spent so much time with my babies. But pre-baby I worked with/for my husband which helped get us everything we have today but now is MY time. Lost myself in motherhood majorly a couple of years ago so it felt like the right time.

I meant sahm indefinitely, I homeschool and intend to I to the far future.

When my kids are old enough to be in school I'd like to work part time

We have 3 under 5y. I’ll forever be a SAHM.

I’m taking my ass back to work cuz I’m going crazy being home all the time😭

The plan is to stay at home until both my kids are in school. And then go to that school and teach

I work for fun. I think it’s cool to go to school and have a little job for extra money just because 🤷🏻‍♀️ nothing wrong with more money

I’m a SAHM with a 16 month old & currently 19 weeks pregnant. I quit my job partially because I was a bartender at a dive bar but it was always the plan to be a sahm once we had kids. I get annoyed when people ask me “what job are you gonna look for when the kids go to school?” because why tf would I want a job? 😂 I understand some sahms go back to work just to get out of the house, socialize, or extra income but I look forward to having free time to put towards my hobbies. That’s subject to change, of course, but for now that’s the plan.

i’m a stay at home
mom, but before that it was always clear kids or no kids i’d just stay home lmao, so it’s up to you. some women go stir crazy and like working!

Me personally would be a SAHM temporarily which is what I’m doing then when my children are at school I’m planning to start my own business that I can do at home and be flexible in between school time

I would work part time, I work 2 days per week and for me it’s the perfect balance of being at home with my daughter but also having something for myself that breaks up the week.

I think it depends if you love your job, love working, have your own identity. Even if your husband income could cover everything, nothing wrong to choose to work.

Also, chosing being a SAHM, make sure you have access to the accounts,have insurance in place and ask him to save for your retirement too. In the UK you can have retirement credit when claiming for child benefits, even if you are not eligible for the allowance.

And have a plan for when the children are older, going back to work or have a hobbie/business.

I’m literally in this position and I currently work - I’ve gone down to 4 days so my pay was decreased 20% but the kids (1 and 3) are still in nursery full time so I have Fridays to myself. Debating whether to change to a proper part time lower paying role somewhere and pick the kids up at 3 instead of 5.

I'd still work part time for my own sanity 😅 I'd have a nice long mat leave first though!

https://youtu.be/o7N-i4GJ9_A?si=miC5a8cK5YNgUtJT

I didn't finish to watch it but find the debate interesting

I'd work part time. Best of both worlds.

Part time would be ideal or even just one day a week so you can treat yourself without feeling guilty

I'm a SAHM with a 17 month old and currently 33 weeks pregnant. I plan to stay home with the kids till they are school aged.
I will admit that I do miss work or at least I worry that I haven't been able to gain the work experience after getting my Masters degree and it'll be harder to get back to work after years of being out of school.
I did start to get bored and want to make my own money so I started thrifting to resell and that's been great money just to have for things I want!

But on the bright side I love being able to experience every milestone and watch my child grow with my own eyes vs having someone else take care of them.

I am a sahm I worked all the way up until I was seven months pregnant. I returned back to work when she was nine months for one day and I hated it so now I stay home with our child which I always told my husband if we were to have children, I would not be going to work at all everyone’s different and some people aren’t in a situation where you can stay home, but I would definitely say if you can stay home I’m 100% would
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I would never be financially dependent on anyone else or allow my skills to degrade by giving up work entirely. Part time or freelance work is a good middle ground to keep your skills sharp and you always have the option to go back up to full time.

My mum either stayed home or took 'jobs' around my dad who had a full career. When it turned out he'd been keeping secrets throughout the whole marriage she was left with very low earning power and no transferable skills she could use in higher paying industries. Her pension pot is smaller so it'll affect her for the rest of her life.

If you're going to stay home that's fine but protect yourself - have your own savings and investments he can't touch, have him pay into a pension in your name, etc. Find a way to keep your hand in on your career or take the time out to study or retrain in something you want to do.

I work 2 on 4 off in a children's home, so usually away for 48 hours at a time. If I could I'd go part time, and just work 1 24 hour shift in 6 days!

Personally, I couldn’t do it. I value my financial independence too much and I need to have a few hours in each day where I engage my brain in things other than the correct way to chop up a banana. Fair play to you if you can hack it, but the SAHM life is not for me. I worked hard to get where I am in my career and I don’t want to lose my place in the job market.

I love my job it’s very demanding and rewarding. On the other hand I don’t find motherhood rewarding at all so I would choose working. I also earn quite a lot so it makes no sense not working. It would cut out disposable income a lot and we wouldn’t be able to save as we can now. We invest and are also saving money for our so. To pay for him to go to university/give him a head start in life. So for me it’s a no brainer.

I love my job and I get great fulfillment from it. My husband did not have the same kind of connection to his work so he became the stay at home parent. It works for us, but I definitely did not want to stay home.

Honestly if you asked me after my first id have said 100% SAHM but managing a baby and a toddler and post natal depression I absolutely cannot wait to escape this Groundhog Day

Go to work, even if just part time. Financial independence is so crucial as is an adult life outside the home - that’s just my opinion!

I’m a sahm to a 3 1/2 year old, 2 year old, and 3 month old. I plan on being a fully stay home parent until my kids are all school aged and even once they are in school I plan on getting more of a part time job so I can have the availability to take my kids to school and be off work by the time they’re done with school. I always worked customer service so I definitely miss interactions with people and I miss making money on my own but it is more important to me to be home with my kids and raise them myself rather than working. Honestly no one can tell you the correct choice for your family, it’s up to you to decide what is most important, for me it’s more important to spend this time with my kids and really teach them the foundation of our family values instead of myself giving up this small amount of time just for some extra money

I've been a SAHM for the last 2.5 almost 3 years. My son is turning 5 this year. I tried working and it just didn't work out so my husband asked me to stay home and honestly, it's hard, but I love it.

I did not work for the first year of my sons life, currently doing the same with my daughter. I am going back to work part time when she is 14 months as for me that is the best balance, I get to have adult only time and plenty of time with my babies.

I fully intended to go back to work but things changed there and part of me didnt want to, the biggest factor was that I would be working for a nursery bill and have nothing so it was a no brainer tbf

I’m a fully kept SAHM so it’s lovely 🥰 can’t complain….

I might do a couple days at a job or volunteer at a pet shelter a couple days a week.

But that would be once the kid was in school.

My husband is the SAHD and we dont plan for him to return to work until our son starts preschool or kindergarden. I dont think id want him to continue to be a SAHD once he starts school though

My honest opinion is that if you stay at home to take care of you guys children, his money should be your money too and in a case of separation it should be written somewhere, you guys should be a team. The fact that he gives you “some money to pay for your needs” tells me that this is not the case( I might be wrong). Please please please protect yourself, your financial security is as well your children security.