Nursery advice

I am wanting some advice.

Lately I have noticed the nursery which my child attends has started to inform me about certain ways they do things and how it is the nursery procedure to follow this.

Even though I have stated that there is a change in my child's routine at home and I would like the nursery to follow the routine as close as we do at home rather than the nursery wanting to do certain things their own way.

When questioned again as to why the home routine is not being followed, the nursery had then presented us with a guidance / policy.

However our debate is, firstly this policy has not been signed and dated by us as the parent s secondly the nursery cannot decide they want to do as they please & thirdly , this policy / guidance had not been presented at the time of signing my child up.

We feel as when discussed with the nursery manager , they keep referring to the guidance and don't have any useful answers & when bought up the issue with the room staff , they keep stating the manager insists on the nursery guidance to be followed.

Any advice on who else to bring this up with? The situation is very distressing and upsetting especially as it's a big trust in strangers with your child so you don't expect your requests and routines to be ignored .

TIA

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I agree - needs to be signed and dated sonyoure right to push back. Can you give an example of the things they aren't following? My LO also starts nursery this week snd I am nervous about this. I had been warned about signing and dating but also crossing out anything you do not agree with for example medical procedures etc.
Silly question but did you ask AI who you can bring it up with?

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they are not following a time cap on the daytime sleep. We just feel as there's so much going on whilst at nursery so why are they struggling to be able to distract a child / children .

As it's a private nursery I feel as our concerns and issues are going to be brushed to the back of the pack.

I would suggest you ask your nursery to present all their policies and guidances to ensure there's no hidden policies which come out .

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Have you maybe tried changing things at home to work around nursery ie meal times/ nap times etc that way your child is getting the same routine each day

Might be easier for your nursery workers if you work to a routine that will work both at home/nursery

I can imagine the nursery workers have so many children and having to work with each individual child’s routine is difficult and doesn’t work

What routine at home is it that your trying to get nursery to follow?

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nursery is letting my child sleep no time limit even though when my child is at home they no longer have daytime naps.

I have stressed numerous times that the no cap on daytime nap affects the nightime routine for bedtime. However they have since stated that they are unable to limit sleeps and cant disturb a child due to nursery guidance .

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2 years old. I understand not all 2 year olds have dropped the daytime nap yet but all children are different .

& with so much going on at nursery when a child is well distracted they wouldn't want to go down for a sleep unless the nursery room staff are using the sleep time for all children to their advantage so they can cover their lunch periods / smaller ratios I'm not quite sure

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if anything I'd have thought my child would have preferred the naps when at home as opposed to nursery. However at home, fully declines the nap.

Again I understand all children are different and some may need the sleeps and some no longer do during the day.

Bedtime is at 8, however on nursery days bedtime does tend to longer as there has been a sleep during the day as opposed to non nursery days and bedtime settle time is much quicker.

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That’s why I suggested for you to work a routine with nursery so your child is napping the same time at home and at nursery as it’s possible the nap time your doing at home your child is refusing as it’s out of sync when at nursery and not tired at the time your trying at home

My boy is 1 and half years old and naps between 12-1pm at nursery which I follow at home and because he is napping at a consistent time it works at both home and nursery

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