Have you ever had a post partum plan?

I mean written down like you would a birth plan and getting your partner on board. Not just preferences for after birth like baby bath, but I mean for example taking care of yourself - or better yet who's there taking care of you and how during those vulnerable weeks when you can only sleep when baby sleeps and can't find time to take a shower!

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Mostly not written down, but i was very clear on how i wanted that time to go. Prepping a recovery station (maternity pads and numbing sprays, tylenol, and plenty of baby wipes) and MOST IMPORTANTLY, i sat and wrote down a list of all the possible symptoms of postpartum depression, anxiety, psycosis, and rage, then i taped it to the fridge for everyone to see. It quite literally saved my life.

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Not written but I definitely had a line I wanted to follow. We decided to have no visitors for 6 weeks at least (best decision ever), we prepared some food, comfy clothes,... I think I had more stuff prepared for me than for my baby ahahahaha. Happy mom= happy baby

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Can someone confirm they can see the line too?🥹
We have been trying for baby number 2🥹

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Cradle cap

Looking for recommendations. He’s 6 months and I have just left it but it’s not getting better. I’ve seen coconut oil is best, can I just use any sort for him please?

(UK based products and hopefully something I can get from Superdrug as I’m doing an order 😂)

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11 month old only lasting half the night in his cot

Every night my 11 month old goes to bed in his cot fine. He does a fairly good 4-5 hour stretch and then wakes. Sometimes I’m lucky and he settles himself, sometimes I just need to lay him down or rub his back to settle him. But other times it’s a case of holding him until he falls into a deep sleep and transferring him.

Some nights I get lucky and he stays asleep for a few more hours but more often than not he wakes again 30-60 minutes later and we start the process again.

Then when we get to around 3/4am I’m so exhausted I take him into either my bed or my step sons bed to go sleep and the second he lays down he falls asleep! Even if I’ve not laid next to him yet. I then sleep next to him and get up at 05:30 and he continues to sleep all the way through until 7/8am

I used to think he wanted me, but the fact he can fall straight asleep without me even laying down next to him tells me differently. The only difference is the duvet/fleece blanket I put over him

How can I stop this need to go into a different bed part way through the night?

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Does anyone else feel this kind of guilt?

I’m going back to work in a couple of weeks—just two days a week—and my 8½-month-old has started her settling-in sessions at nursery. Yesterday was her second one, and it honestly broke my heart.

She’s breastfed but will take expressed milk from a bottle (as long as it’s not from me). When I picked her up, she was absolutely screaming—she’d clearly been crying for a while. Her hair was damp with tears, her eyes were red, and she was so upset. She’d refused her bottle, even though the staff member trying to feed her was a breastfeeding mam herself, and she’d just woken up from a nap too.

She’ll only be going once a week, as my mother-in-law will have her on the other day I’m working. But I can’t shake the feeling that I’m being cruel… I just don’t know if she’s going to settle. Once she gets really worked up, she’ll only calm down with someone she knows, and it took me a good 10 minutes to soothe her after I picked her up.

My mother-in-law has offered to have her both days, and I’ve said I’ll consider it if she doesn’t settle at nursery after a month—especially since my little one absolutely loves being with her.

But I keep questioning myself… am I making the right decision sending her to nursery at all? 🤍

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WORK

Hey all! my husband has recently started a new job which is night shifts 9pm-7am. He works 4 on and 4 off but has said he has to stick to same sleep pattern. Not waking until 3-4pm everyday? How are we coping with this and looking after baba by ourselves completely?

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Parking drama, I want to know what people think!

My mum parks across my driveway sometimes (maybe up to twice a week) as there’s limited on street parking nearby.
Someone has been pushing her wing mirrors in, obviously in protest. Her car is older, and the wing mirror has been broken twice by doing this.

See my doodle. The guy doing this lives at the house at the top of the road’s turning circle. He walks the path of the purple line across the turning circle to do it to the car.

The road is not a busy road at all, it’s a short culdesac/dead end road. The pavement by my driveway is blocked by a bush and a lamppost (drawn in my pic lol), and any pedestrians would need to go on the road anyway to get past, even if her car wasn’t there. There are no obstructions on the pavement on the other side of the road.

Do you think what he is doing is fair??

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