4 months pp feelings

Please do not compare yourself to others. A lot of people mask and put on a front. When I had my first it hit me like a brick wall, in both ways, with massive amounts of love and very overwhelmed with being a mother 24/7. It does get better but in the meantime try and set up a routine that includes you getting out the house, see if you can go for a daily walk, it used to help me feel a lot better making sure I got some gentle exercise and fresh air.

Your baby is loved because you clearly care and are trying to ensure this you do all you can for your baby.

Have you tried any supplements for your sleep? Magnesium used to help me.

The fact your questioning how good of a mother you are means your a great one ! It’s really isolating at times I feel that , but I realised with my first aswell so many people like to pretend everything is fine when their reality is nothing like what they say it is . Your not alone 🩷

I honestly didn’t start feeling better until 6/7 months PP with my first. Then by the time I went back to work at 12 months PP, I had fully adapted to the “new normal” and was loving it. It got slowly better from about 3/4 months PP but I’d say these worth big turning points for me where the fog started to lift xx

What helps me is meeting other moms and their babies and doing something fun together! Like a film event where you can bring your baby, or just a walk or a coffee, or a trip to the mall :) human interaction really helps me. On days where I don't meet anyone we are just doing the same thing (home, same walk, same park, etc) and it can get depressing. I am more tired on such days.. In the beginning I was really scared to go anywhere with my LO, but meeting other moms and getting outside my comfort zone helped and I get more and more confident.

please don’t put pressure on yourself to feel a certain way. motherhood is absolutely transformational. it would be odd if you were feeling exactly how you did before you had your baby.

i also don’t think there’s a linear trajectory towards feeling ‘better’. all will be well in the end and you’ll look back and feel so empowered by the fact you rode this wave.

that said, please see your gp if you are struggling. perinatal women are usually prioritised by the nhs for support and there are services that can help x