Am I doing things wrong?

My friend and her mum just came round to see me and my 5 month old and every time they tried to hold her she cried with real tears. She does this with everyone at the moment unless its me or my partner or my sister for some reason. My friend who has no kids said you need to leave the room as she spends too much time with you and the mum said I need to spend time away from her regularly which i said I can't as a breastfeed. They asked how we slept to which I said co sleep and she wakes quite a lot in the night and the mum said that her crying with others is my fault, that i need to be tougher and let her cry as she will struggle when shes goes to nursery. Friend also doesnt get why i cant go out in the evenings which i said is because of breastfeeding and cosleeping and to be honest I just don't want to. Doothers agree with them? I dont leave my baby at all, 1 hour max with my husband and I sleep with her and cuddle her when she cries in night. Am I doing it wrong and will she struggle at nursery when shes one? 😭

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Ew very horrible opinions. 5 months is one of those phases where they’re just hyper aware of being left / when you’re not around. My boy was like that and he started nursery absolutely fine; we had a few weeks of the classic tears on drop off etc but now he’s thriving and absolutely loved it. Ignore them and soak up every moment with your baby x

You don’t have to AND SHOULD NOT be thougher and let her cry.
I just don’t get how someone doesn’t want to understand that babies have needs and wants. Of course a baby is dependant and would like to be with their favourite person/mom !
How would anyone else feel about if you were being forced to be with someone who is not the person you want to be with at the moment.
Especially since a baby doesn’t understand anything.

This is terrible advice, I’m so sorry they vocalized all of that to you. She is this attached to you for the opposite reason they said- it’s because you are actually doing everything right. Youre giving her that safety and security that she needs from you. You don’t need to spend any time away from her until you are both ready.

For context- my first I could leave with someone else from when she was a few months old. My second is super attached to me and I only just went out for dinner without him for the first time and he’s 10 months old. Every baby is different, trust your gut and only do what you are comfortable with.

I wouldn’t take parenting advice from someone who doesn’t have kids and very rarely from anyone who was a parent to a baby over 20+ years ago (even before I had my second I’d forgotten loads from the baby stage and that’s only been the last 5 years 😂)

Carry on doing what you’re doing 👌🏼

There's a development leap that starts around 5-6 months where babies naturally are more clingy and weary of others outside of their main care givers. My LG has just turned 6 months and is exactly the same. This is totally normal at this stage.

Please do not listen to any of those crazy opinions!!!
You cannot spend too much time with your baby!! Absolute lunacy.

It’s completely normal for a baby to cry when their mum isn’t with them. You are their safe person.

Ugh what horrible people. What your doing and how your feeling is NORMAL ! What stupid people x

You are doing what you should do
They will never understand no matter how much you explain ❤️❤️

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I’ve been getting the ick from mother in law and really wish I wouldn’t!

I’m 7mos postpartum and it’s still just as strong as when I was freshly postpartum but I’d been shoving it down hoping it’d disappear. It’s to the point where I wash everything after she holds baby and want to bathe her right after but worried I’d offend my husband. She kisses her so much, like keeps her lips on her when she’s holding her, and I’ve never told her not to but it drives me crazy and now she’s given her a nickname that’s after her own name (she’s named after the women in my family so it feels weirdly personal).

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Before; it would have been ‘no’.
Not because I am unhappy in my relationship or with my 3 young children but because I wasn’t feeling myself and wasn’t being the best I could be for them (I looked after them all and even played with them but I personally felt like shit)

Now I feel so much better and almost every day is a happy one since I have sought help so I encourage people in the same position as I was to do the same xx

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