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FTM - Sleep Help

My little boy is 11 days old and constantly goes into his side slightly when sleeping, I always put him on his back and seem to be correcting him throughout the night but he always ends up in this position.
Is this safe? Or does anyone have advice?

Mum problems?!

Has anyone struggled with their own mum since having a baby? My mother and I have always been extremely close and still are but I’m really struggling with our relationship since I’ve had my daughter.

My mother is extremely opinionated and is constantly telling me she would do this and wouldn’t do that. From an outsider perspective you probably think that’s great and a lot of the time it is but a lot of the time it’s unwanted and quite offensive advice. It feels like I’m not being trusted to look after and raise my own baby and when I ask her to stop she always gets extremely rude and gives me the cold shoulder and makes sarcastic comments when I next ask for advice. I appreciate she’s only trying to do what’s best for the baby but that’s what she thinks is best. She makes me so anxious about a lot of things, for example when I’ve mentioned putting my daughter in nursery as I’m struggling with juggling everything and she makes comments like ‘oh I wouldn’t… you see these stories’ or when I’ve mentioned going out with friends for an hour and she’s made comments like ‘your daughter needs you, you shouldn’t be going out’ to then be told ‘you should go out you need a break’ but when I do I get texts being told to come back.

My mother also helps out my with my daughter a couple of times a week whilst I’m out at work, which again, I’m very appreciative for but it’s never smooth sailing. I’ll get text messages saying ‘she needs you’, ‘you need to come back’. I always come running but I’m made to feel bad for leaving which is just so much for already an anxious mum that suffers terribly with guilt. It just feels like my mother is always the victim and I’m always so unreasonable? She’ll give my daughter sugary snacks and if I’m not happy about it she’ll make comments like ‘well maybe find someone else to help you next time’ or ‘right, I raised you ok’.

My friend said to be a couple of weeks ago, it feels like you have family but not community and that really hit home. My mum is happy to help when my daughter is giggly and jolly but as soon as she’s tired or cranky it feels like the help disappears. Or I’ll be told ‘of course it’s ok’ and then I’m met with an attitude and comments like ‘well I guess my plans are going out the window then’. I’m always happy to make alternative arrangements but it feels like I’m constantly getting conflicting messages. I fully respect that this is my daughter and she’s my responsibility, however, I do feel like I’m being made to feel like I should be grateful because it’s better than nothing.

Is it better than nothing, 100%

Am I extremely grateful, 100%

Am I made to feel bad constantly, 100%

Am I being faced with someone who’s blowing hot and cold every day,100%

Am I the problem? Maybe?

I do sometimes feel as though my mum thinks my daughter is her baby and she does constantly tell me that baby wants Nan and has a special place for her. Again, sounds very innocent and normal until you realise these comments always come after a discussion where I’ve felt anxious about my bond with my daughter. My mother will say stuff like ‘she’s so happy with me’ and ‘well she might be grumpy with you but she’s not grumpy with me’.

I guess I’m just asking advice if anyone else has experienced anything like this and if I am in fact the problem? I try and be conscious constantly of others opinions and feelings but I feel like I’m getting nowhere. I don’t want to ruin my relationship with my mother but I also want to be able to parent my baby the way I want to parent without judgement and comments that make me uncomfortable and anxious.

Also I’m working full time and am a single parent.

Thank you

Help 🥲🥲🥲

So, my girl woke at 6 am this morning, had her first nap at 8 am for 40 minutes, had her second nap at 11:40 am for 2 hours?! (She’s super grumpy and clingy recently, so I let her sleep incase it was her teeth or poorly) and now she won’t have her cat nap for bridge to bedtime. Her bedtime is around 7.30-8.30 pm.
I know this is probably because she had such a big nap but my parenting skills don’t go this far 😆, do I keep her up and start bedtime earlier and get her to bed for like 6.30-7 pm or keep trying the cat nap? My only worry is this wake window would be MASSIVE if I do 😆 she’s 7 months in 3 days.
Thanks in advance 🥲🤣

3 month baby

My heart is broken, i got back to work wednesday thru sunday 6 pm to 6 am cause i need the money not cause i wanted and i think my baby is missing me
I left her at home with my mom
And when i get there at 6 am and my baby sees me she smile a lot, but she doesnt want to sleep in her bassinet, she start crying when i stop holding her for a bit, shes barely eating too, she just want to be with me and the only way she falls asleep is in my chest
I feel so guilty like a bad mom or sum
I think im not doing the right thing 💔

How is everyone sleep training their bubbas?

I have decided to sleep train my 4.5month old like i did with my older child.

I give him a cuddle and song, put him down sleepy but awake,
He fidgets ALOT i leave him (sit on my bed) and wait if he starts fussing i leave him a couple of minutes to give him time if he doesnt settle i go to him and reassure him by patting his bum and stroking his face. If i have to go to him 4 times ill pick him up and repeat . Seems to be working
If he cries i go to him straight away

Guilt

I feel so guilty because I feel like there’s limited things to do with my newborn, he’s 9 weeks old. Other than tummy time, socialisation et cetera, he’s sat in a bouncer or in bed. Does anyone else feel guilty or have any recommendations? Am I doing anything wrong??