I got the ick, am I terrible?

I’ve been getting the ick from mother in law and really wish I wouldn’t!

I’m 7mos postpartum and it’s still just as strong as when I was freshly postpartum but I’d been shoving it down hoping it’d disappear. It’s to the point where I wash everything after she holds baby and want to bathe her right after but worried I’d offend my husband. She kisses her so much, like keeps her lips on her when she’s holding her, and I’ve never told her not to but it drives me crazy and now she’s given her a nickname that’s after her own name (she’s named after the women in my family so it feels weirdly personal).

Am I just hormonal af???

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Woah!! You have EVERY right to say no to ANYONE kissing your baby!!! You're not hormonal mama, your instincts are just doing what needs to be done to protect your baby! Tell her to stop, and if she can't respect that, that's an issue for her to sit with. The amount of bacteria on someone's lips is TERRIFYING concerning a baby's immune system, explain that if she can't respect your babies health, maybe she should wait until the wee one is older for MIL to hold the baby,

You've got this mama

Is she unhygienic?

I don’t understand what the issue is ?

I'm not sure what to advise in this situation, but I can say that in hindsight, it's best not to dismiss your feelings as just "postpartum" or "hormones". As women yes of course our feelings can be amplified by our hormones, but that doesn't mean what we care about doesn't matter. We just might be feeling it and expressing it a bit more intensely than necessary. Still matters and still needs to be voiced

I don’t think you’re “just hormonal.” Postpartum can definitely intensify protective feelings and boundaries around your baby. Honestly, the constant kissing would bother me too.
It sounds less like you hate your MIL and more like some boundaries are being crossed, and since you’ve been holding it in, the feelings are building up. You’re allowed to set boundaries without being mean or dramatic.

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