Self care tips

I’m tired of the role of a mum ? I love my baby and enjoy being her mum but I’m tired of all the work that comes with it. It’s so much effort being a mother, and it’s 24/7. Even when I’m asleep there is a part of my brain that is still on high alert and can hear every shuffle , and feel breathing changes and temperature changes etc.
I’ve had a couple hours away from my baby but I spent that time thinking about what I need to do for my baby when she gets back !

What do people do to switch off and recharge? I desperately need to reset but I don’t know how

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I incorporate self care practices intentionally throughout the day. When baby was asleep… id intentionally do something for me. Make a latte, have annextended shower with skin care, or let hubby keep her for an hour while i went out and about. I now have added prayer and affirmations to reset mentally throughout the day. When she falls asleep in the car… i pause..: pray… get a snack for myself and take a moment. Doing this is like “refilling” my cup throughout the day.
I have learned to use social media to my advantage by watching mom routines, motherhood videos, declutterinf and cleaning routines for moms on youtube to help me learn to restructure and organize my new life. They say it takes a mom 5 years to feel herself again. Its so much changes within self and baby so give yourself grace. Find ways to make it easier for yourself… meal prepping or easy meals, letting the house go messy every once in a while, and intentionally taking 5-10 minutes throughout the day to …

If you feel able to, I appreciated the opportunity to spend some time doing something that required a fair amount of focus. My friends recently took me to a pottery painting cafe - we were painting for nearly 2 hours and it took up so much concentration I really did switch off the mum brain for a little bit!

You have to literally tell yourself rhat taking care of you is whats best for your baby and family. You can not pour from an empty cup so… intentionally trying to keep your cup filled directly impacts baby. There is a phrase that says “when mom hums…. The whole family sings” it means that how you feel literally impacts your mini family so u need to really take time for u. And it doesnt have to be a full spa day. Taking multiple 15 minute sessions daily have helped me. Do things u enjoy… a coffee, a show, a donut, fav snack or drink, a bath or washing your hair.

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