Bonding with baby

Honestly it took me a few weeks to feel like I bonded. I felt really bad too. My mental health is good as far as I know. I didint feel the instant connection however.

Everyone is different!

When my son was born my mom kept asking me if I loved my son so much, like I've never loved anyone else and I said I don't know if it's love, it doesn't feel like it - just feels like instinct to care for him. I breastfed as well and sometimes felt a little upset that this little baby just wanted my milk but not really me in the early days 🙈. I also didn't get that rush of oxytocin when he was born, just sheer relief the birth was over. We go through a whirlwind of emotions coupled with a cocktail of hormonal changes, feeling will reflect that. My advice to new moms is always that you are both two people getting to know each other still. My son is 4.5 years now I get what my mom was saying now. Nothing compares to how I feel about him but I can't say that feeling was instant.

I think it's actually quite a common feeling- we think we are going to bond straight away but in reality you go from being one person to having this little human stuck to you 24/7, which along sleep deprivation and the hardness of things not going as they should (breastfeeding, birth, etc) and hormones, it makes it so hard to find yourself and the connection with them. It'll take a few werks but you'll feel it 💜 keep going mamma!