imposter syndrome since having baby ??

i don’t know i kind of forget im her mom ?? like it’s hard for me to wrap my head around. or like i feel like its all too good to be true. i had a perfect pregnancy and birth and my baby is so beautiful. she’s a clingy and fussy baby but she’s absolutely lovely. i feel like im dreaming half the time because how is this my life ?? i thought it was all going to be worst case and it wasn’t. i’m incredibly grateful but it just seems like maybe i’m waiting for something bad to happen ?? idk

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This is exactly how I feel. We planned for the worst case scenario and everything has been a dream. I’m waiting for it to get bad. I don’t know how to talk about it without making it seem like I’m bragging and I feel guilty.

It’s totally ok to sympathize with other mom’s experiences, while also having your own experience and it being wildly different.

I have found that I’m finally shedding the people pleasing customer service side of me because I don’t have the energy to give a crud about other opinions when my priority is my children. It comes with time(LO is 21mth & I’m due in 2ish weeks) and practice.

And if it’s really imposter syndrome vs being surreal, I’d reach out to a metal health pro and talk to them. Sometimes these kinds of feelings resolve and sometimes they take more effort.

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