Change of Midwife

I’m gutted, had the same midwife the whole way through (because my original midwife who I never actually saw was on long term sick leave) and now they have put me with the one that was off 😭 I’m probably being dramatic but I’m 5 weeks away from my due date and had so much confidence in my midwife and now I’ve been put with someone I’ve never met and not comfortable with 😭

in our community

He’s here

4 days early my boy arrived yesterday morning 🥰🩵

Constant contractions but no dilation progress

Im so miserable....
Im 38+4 and have had constant contractions since Wednesday evening , so about 45 hours now but im still only 2 cm dilated. I actually have a very high pain tolerance as I have multipul conditions that cause pain so basically have to be able to function through pain daily. But this has been horrendous

I went into MAC really early hours of thursday morning because my contractions were every 3 mins and really painful. But after monitoring and checking, only 2cm they sent me home. Contractions carried on getting icreasing painful they dying off so they were not just as strong for a little while before ramping up again.
Saw my regular midwife on friday, who checked again. Still 2 cm but she managed to do a sweep.

Everything continued contractions wise. Paracetamol wasn't touching the pain at all. Then got back to every 4 mins but so painful I couldn't talk through them. So again back to hospital, they did checks still 2cm. Stayed 10 hours! And again still 2cm. Im loosing alot of mucus but cervics just isn't changing.

So I was discharged with codeine and the plan that I'll be on the induction list by monday if baby still hasn't arrived.

Im absolutely fucking miserable now. Before all this I'd had 3 weeks of braxton hicks like clockwork every evening lasting about 5 hours a day.

When I had my daughter 4 years ago Everything just progressed fairly quickly and I was only in labour just under 30 hours start to finish with only a small amount of gas and air. Everything is so stop start its exhausting. My back pain is just chronic and nothing is touching it at all. I really didn't want a induction but physically and mentally im abousutly broken now....

My daughter only knows mummy's feeling poorly, and insisted on giving me her lovey heart on Wednesday, since tgen shes insisted I keep it in my hand if I put it down even just to eat and she sees she walks over and puts it back in my hand. She got very upset having to leave me today when I went to hospital and I offered her it back to hold she insisted I keep it in my hand. 😭

Save me

Does the nausea ever stop

C section wound incision. Normal or not?

I had an emergency c section 5 days ago and my incision feels irritated. Doesn’t smell, no puss or rash. Is this normal? Could it just be itching from the healing process?

I haven’t actually looked at it myself yet but my husband says it looks okay.

Early gender scan or wait until 20 weeks?

We were initially planning to wait and find out the gender at the 20 week NHS scan. However, family members who had kids before suggested going privately because the 20 week scan can be intense with a lot to check, and to them it felt more like a medical procedure than a special moment. I'm really torn now, we will be most likely one and done so I don't want to have regrets!

Bleeding postpartum

6 days pp now and still bleeding quite heavily. I had an elective C-section on Monday. I'm not sure if it's because it's my second time.. last time I only bled for a couple of days. When did your bleeding stop?