Ballet/dance class for 4-5 year old

My little girl has been asking to try ballet - I did some research on classes in the area and we tried a trial of one today that was more musical theatre incorporated with ballet and less formal ballet class - she’s quite anxious in new situations and I thought the musical theatre style ballet would be more fun.
I spied from the door - and they were teaching the girls a dance routine, it was sweet. But there wasn’t many opportunities for the girls to interact with each other and the class was only half an hour long.
She was a little under whelmed - I think she thought it would be like a disco aka constant freestyle dance - and I could tell she was nervous throughout the whole thing. But she did know a friend from her school class so that helped - and she has said she enjoyed it, but she never tells the truth with these sort of things.
My question is - is this typical for ballet/ballet style class for this age group? Or are other classes you’ve been to a bit more interactive with the other girls - or is it really just a class to learn how to dance basically?!
Just not sure how much to encourage her to try a term or whether we try a different class.

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I would hope that when I pay for lessons they’re actually learning 😭🤣 my cousin was in dance class when I was younger, they’re very professional. She ended up getting a star role in the nutcracker in an arena it was amazing.

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My little one does dance, and at that age its quite normal to only be 30 mins long, more to do with attention span. The class you went to sounds similar to my girls which incorporates lots of different styles, she even does a little bit of tap dancing. I personally would keep at it as your little one will definitely learn the basic foundation to ballet and as she gets bigger she can decide what she wants to do as she would have covered lots of different dance types. Also each week should be different session from the previous.

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I did ballet for 15 odd years - in my experience/opinion you have dance clubs and dance schools. Dance clubs are often run in local village halls etc and theyre more fun and a lot more relaxed but you don’t learn as much and there may not be show productions etc especially as you get older you don’t progress as far/fast. Dance schools have their own venue and dedicated teachers whose career is to teach and they are also fun but focus more on learning, often they have school performances and advertise auditions for the opera house productions/bigger companies in the area. Age is kinda irrelevant, this is just how they operate. There will be a few anomalies but this is usually how they run.

It all depends on what you are looking for. Does she want to learn to dance and perform or does she want to play and make friends with some dancey stuff and music?

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This is really helpful thank you!! I did ballet when I was tiny so don’t remember what it entailed so helpful to get insight from others. I just want her to have fun, socialise, and move her body!!
The one we’ve trialled is in village halls but they put on two shows a year in bigger venues. But don’t do ballet exams etc which I’m not bothered about - as like you said if she enjoys it I can swap her over to formal ballet in a year or so.
She’s just such an anxious little thing but LOVES dancing - I’m hoping this makes her a bit more confident but I honestly can’t see her wanting to do the shows at all 💔

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I would try to research the class and also the company and the teacher and try to watch it a few times before paying for something so if you have a friend that is going with their kid, I would just watch and see if you like it before paying all that money for something that your kid might not be able to be using fully to their potential

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