Need advice
Me and my partner have been together for quite some time. But throughout my pregnancy He really started, just letting me down. Not being the partner I needed and not really being supportive. So during that process I've kind of just like started losing feelings and having resentment towards him. Rcently, he started work again. Which means I only see him once a week. And sometimes not even that, so it's just me and the baby.
So, any advice on how to like bring the spark back in our relationship, or if it's even worth fighting for? I love him and I want this to work, but I just don't know what to do.
AITA
We have 3 kids under 5 including a 4 month old.
We have had discussions about increasing intimacy which i have been really trying. I have gone through quite bad ppd and plays and I also have severe endometriosis and had had issues with contraception so I was bleeding for abiht 12 weeks pp.
I have been giving it my all. On friday he got a bj without asking and because he was sick, I ran around him, feeding him making him honey lemon teas etc.
Saturday was crazy, our son was acting up and it was.overall a really strwasful day coupled by the face that our 2 year old vomited twice on friday night so we had very little sleep and I was up with the baby as well. He asked for sex and I said that I didnt feel up to it and now (sunday) I am being punished big time. Attitude, being told to go away, that he's done with me, that I'm never there for him.
So am I in the wrong? I agreed to work in intimacy but now I feel like I can't say no or I'm going to get punished even though je got some the day before???
Edit- Its just getting worse, hes now saying that we are over because i said no and apparently that was me stopping trying and 'he really needed me' I tried to explain that I was on limited sleep from the night before and our son had been really hard all day (possible serious adhd) and I was exhausted. Hes now saying hes going to go have sex with someone else and take a picture to rub in my face