AITA

We have 3 kids under 5 including a 4 month old.

We have had discussions about increasing intimacy which i have been really trying. I have gone through quite bad ppd and plays and I also have severe endometriosis and had had issues with contraception so I was bleeding for abiht 12 weeks pp.

I have been giving it my all. On friday he got a bj without asking and because he was sick, I ran around him, feeding him making him honey lemon teas etc.

Saturday was crazy, our son was acting up and it was.overall a really strwasful day coupled by the face that our 2 year old vomited twice on friday night so we had very little sleep and I was up with the baby as well. He asked for sex and I said that I didnt feel up to it and now (sunday) I am being punished big time. Attitude, being told to go away, that he's done with me, that I'm never there for him.

So am I in the wrong? I agreed to work in intimacy but now I feel like I can't say no or I'm going to get punished even though je got some the day before??????

in our community

who here scoops the 🩸 out when they’re on their period???

was having a conversation with my friend (we’re both on our periods rn) and she’s a “scooper” which is when apparently some women when they start their periods go up in themselves and scoop all the uterine lining out so their period is only like 2-3 days long. I AM NOT A SCOOPER i never heard of it before this but it makes me curious to try and wondering if anyone else does and likes it or what 😆❤️

Friendships in motherhood

Wondering if others are experiencing this too.

A group of us have been friends for 10 years or so. In our 30-40s. Now we all have kids or expecting, roughly the same age. We all live far from family. Seemed like the kids were going to grow up together. Be each others village. But no.

Parenting approaches are wildly different for us all, We judge each other, some silently and others very openly. The kids don't get on and I don't want to force my daughter into a friendship where someone is just nasty to her. There is a lot of competition which is draining my energy - whose kid is a good eater, whose kid has more activities, who spends more time with their kids and go on more expensive holidays, an so on. I continued to work, they tell me I am missing on the best years. I now can afford to stay home (second kid and other circumstances changed), they told me I will hate being a stay at home mum - "it's not as easy as it looks".

I have decided to distance myself as it is totally toxic environment and I don't need these friendships, but is this common? I feel like I am grieving relationships I never even had in the first place if that makes sense.

Dealing with fomo of past life?

I’ve been in bed putting baby to sleep at 5:30pm on a Saturday and all my friends are going to events etc. I love my baby and wouldn’t change her for the world but omg every Saturday eve I get a really depressing feeling bc I can’t just go out. How are you guys dealing with the feeling of missing your old life where you were just free to roam??

Alone

Hey I’m new to this app my name is Leah 22 mom to a 3 month old I feel so alone due to a dv relationship I’m out now but I just need new friends to talk to and get to know I’m Shropshire based x

Baby only wants me.

Hey, just wondering if anyone is in the same situation at the moment. My little girl literally won’t settle with anyone else, barely even her dad. If i’m in the room she wants only me and if i leave she just cry’s. She constantly has to be on me and I’m finding it sooo exhausting. Today i had to come home early and miss a meal out because she just wouldn’t settle and i just wanted a few hours and to actually enjoy a meal for once.

Losing yourself

I’ve lost myself while trying to build the family of my dreams. I’ve realized that whatever I was working on, it was just an illusion, a distant dream that I had…a little girl’s fantasy.

Maybe it’s the fact that I grew up without a family, that I’ve always felt that urge to make my own. For that reason, I’ve let things go for so long, I’ve lost myself.

I was so hell bent on everything being perfect, that I’ve exhausted myself doing and carrying everything for someone who never even lifted a little finger. This was his dream family. I was actually in the wrong dream. I’ve lost my way.

I am a builder, I’ve always felt the need to work, advance, better myself. Maybe that’s why I didn’t see I was already on my own for a long time.

I am tired, I am lost.

But I have you. And for that, I will be forever grateful.