Losing yourself

I’ve lost myself while trying to build the family of my dreams. I’ve realized that whatever I was working on, it was just an illusion, a distant dream that I had…a little girl’s fantasy.

Maybe it’s the fact that I grew up without a family, that I’ve always felt that urge to make my own. For that reason, I’ve let things go for so long, I’ve lost myself.

I was so hell bent on everything being perfect, that I’ve exhausted myself doing and carrying everything for someone who never even lifted a little finger. This was his dream family. I was actually in the wrong dream. I’ve lost my way.

I am a builder, I’ve always felt the need to work, advance, better myself. Maybe that’s why I didn’t see I was already on my own for a long time.

I am tired, I am lost.

But I have you. And for that, I will be forever grateful.

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Sex

Completely lost my sex drive since becoming a mum. Last year we had sex once and I got pregnant 🤣.
We have 2 under 2 now.
We last had sex around 6 months ago - which induced labour 😃
I feel awful but I just never have the capacity for it, never crave it. Don't think it helps that I'm struggling with my body image.
My husband tells me constantly how beautiful I am & looks at me the same as he always has.
When we do it, its mindblowing & i think "why dont we do this more." But then I guess, life gets in the way.
I feel bad on my husband as we don't have any sexual contact but I almost feel sick at the thought of it.
It's not a reflection on him because hes fooooinnneeeee 😍 and i love him with my whole heart.

It's me thats the problem. I'm going to the gym & eating well to try lose weight. But what can I do to get it back within myself?

Can we talk about how hard it actually is to make mum friends?

You can have a lovely conversation with another mum, exchange numbers and genuinely think, “I’d love to be friends with her”… then somehow life gets busy and you never actually see each other again

Sometimes I think we all want mum friends, but we’re all tired, busy and waiting for someone else to make the first move.

So I’m curious… what do you find hardest about making mum friends?
Is it approaching someone? Keeping the friendship going? Finding mums with similar interests/ages of kids? Or just finding the time to actually meet? 👀

Let’s have a real mum-to-mum chat 💕 And if you’re also looking for genuine friendships, don’t be shy — say hi, you never know who might be looking for a mum friend too 🫶🏽

Would you like to help make a change to Mat Leave pay!

Petition: Make statutory maternity pay 90% of wage for first 12 weeks & minimum wage after

We believe mothers should never be forced back to work because maternity leave is unaffordable. UK SMP is among Europe’s least generous, falling to around 41% of minimum wage after 6 weeks. The Government should fix this and give mothers 12 weeks of Statutory Maternity Pay at 90% of their salary.

https://petition.parliament.uk/petitions/779259

Asking parents for money

How many people have asked their parents to borrow a bit of money to help in the last few months of maternity?
I’m down to £0 pay for the last 3 months and will be picking up an extra job next month but my friends suggested asking my parents to borrow a bit to help me and my parents have made me feel like this is unacceptable and I shouldn’t have asked them.

Looking for my soul sisters🤍

Hi Moms! 💕
I’m looking for the kind of friendship where we actually become part of each other’s lives. Someone to do life with, make plans, go out, try new things, have random hangouts, talk about everything, celebrate each other, support each other, and be there through the ordinary little moments too. I’m definitely a high maintenance friend in the sense that I value consistency 😂. I like friendships where we keep up with each other, make an effort, communicate regularly, and actually spend time together. Not the “we should catch up sometime” and then disappear for three months kind of friendship. 😭

I’m easygoing and love a good laugh, but I really value intentionality, reciprocity and genuine connection. If you’re also looking for a friendship where we can actually do life together, whether you’re in Lagos or somewhere else in the world, let’s connect.🤍

Sex

Is their any couples out their that love prolong sex or partner.
How do u handle prolong sex for yeast infections.
I just found out that sex over an hr can cause it an now I am dealing with it.
Like do u an partner do it once a month or pick a date.
I love sex with my husband only. An its literally everyday or close to it.