Worried

So I have a 19 month old little boy who is my world, I'm in a committed relationship with my partner of 4 years. On Friday we found out we're expecting our second after we suffered a 'pregnancy of unknown location back in November' and this time around im scared as hell.

I'm worried about things financially as things are already tight as it is.

I fight loneliness every single day as I honestly have no friends, and at the moment I'm just in my head alot with the loneliness.

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First of all congratulations! And second of all... I feel you and I am sorry for your previous loss. I just had a baby in January and was terrified due to lack of good maternity care in my area...I bring this up because in the end it all worked out and I wish I had stayed calm. I wish I had meditated and done breathing exercises, rather than worry all the time! Also my husband was so calm and supportive but damn I am sure he worried about me. That said real friendship take years to build and require shared experiences, shared values and trust. Very hard to find these days.

My advice...do not look for friends at all. Look for connection through book clubs, or classes like cooking classes or craft or art classes or mom groups...start virtually then locally.

Remember your partner is overwhelmed too. Lean on a trusted therapist so that you do not overwhelm eachother.

Friendships should be light and happy. Talk to a trusted therapist for the heavy stuff and find moms to have fun light hearted chats with

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Am I a bitch or is she ?

So to summaries me and my bd aren’t technically tg. But he be trying to grab me and touch me when ever he comes to see our baby. I love him but I have a feeling that he talks or sees other women I just don’t trust him. Today he calls me at 5 am to pick him up he’s in the middle of town. I’m like dude wtf are you doing out rn, whatever I picked him up. And he ends up falling asleep on the couch and he receives a call and I picked it up and it was some girl that he talks to. I answer the ft like it’s him lm like hello and she thinks it’s him. Then I’m trying to talk to her but I just don’t know what to say so I end up telling her I’m his bm and she’s like oh okay, “tell him to call me when he’s up” I said “ do you guys talk” she *sighs* and hangs up.. I was shook bc why wouldn’t she want to talk to me… tf did I do to her. He’s literally my bm. Idk if I’m the bitch or her. But if I was her I would have reacted nicer.. maybe that’s just me. I wasn’t being a bitch to her on the phone. I was nervous as hell. Smh

Making friends is hard xx

Making new friends as a mum for play dates or just new friends in a new area is so bloody hard! Kinda giving up but determined 🥹 Moved here in december and just can’t seem to make friends,i just want my 2 year old to have a social circle aswell! She does go to sing & sign but even then we struggle as the mums are in a hurry to leave afterwards 😔 Feeling so lonely,doesn’t help i moved away from friends & i walked away from family for my mental health 🥹❤️ xx

Friendship

In a relationship. Do yall have male and female friends? Or only female friends?

Annoyed or upset by the new govt guidance on screen time?

I felt bad anyway when I needed to resort to teletubbies to cook or clean up....now I feel even worse.
Home alone, no village, no nursery and no nanny or babysitter in this house...I do everything! I'd rather have half an hour quiet time twice or three times a day so I can do things...
Also I guess adults can't watch their favourite sports or the news or anything anymore huh.
Parenting these days is hard enough...

Anyone else’s partner not want sex?

My boyfriend has not had sex with me since I was 19 weeks pregnant. He says it’s cause of the baby. I can’t go the rest of my pregnancy like this😭anyone else experienced this?

New friends

Is there anyone in Plymouth?