Am I a bitch or is she ?

So to summaries me and my bd aren’t technically tg. But he be trying to grab me and touch me when ever he comes to see our baby. I love him but I have a feeling that he talks or sees other women I just don’t trust him. Today he calls me at 5 am to pick him up he’s in the middle of town. I’m like dude wtf are you doing out rn, whatever I picked him up. And he ends up falling asleep on the couch and he receives a call and I picked it up and it was some girl that he talks to. I answer the ft like it’s him lm like hello and she thinks it’s him. Then I’m trying to talk to her but I just don’t know what to say so I end up telling her I’m his bm and she’s like oh okay, “tell him to call me when he’s up” I said “ do you guys talk” she *sighs* and hangs up.. I was shook bc why wouldn’t she want to talk to me… tf did I do to her. He’s literally my bm. Idk if I’m the bitch or her. But if I was her I would have reacted nicer.. maybe that’s just me. I wasn’t being a bitch to her on the phone. I was nervous as hell. Smh

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He probably told her you were a jealous ex so she might of sighed when you asked like it confirmed it x that’s just how id of taken it but i wouldnt of answered either id of left it and just told him

Why would you answer his phone tho if you aren’t even together? If you aren’t together then he’s obviously going to be speaking to others. Very bizarre to be going on someone else’s phone that ain’t even your man, whether he’s your baby dad or not I don’t think that’s right. I think the girl has every right to act how she did cus she wouldn’t be expecting you to answer clearly and I think you and your baby dad need to talk about what’s actually going on between you two

Probablyyy did. I feel like that ain’t a girls girl thing to do. Like if she was in my position she would say the same. She got me mad tbh. I thought that girl would have been nicer.

This situation sounds messy. If you're not together then you have no claim on him and he can talk to and have sex with whoever he likes. Stop letting him be all over you.

Don't answer other peoples phones 😅 why would she want to talk to you? She doesn't know you and didn't call you - she called him.

Yeah what Brittney said you shouldn’t have answered since you aren’t together but you should set boundaries & get a understanding with him

Thanks for responding guys I have nobody to talk to ab my situation! Although I may feel like absolute shit, I know your comments mean good 💌

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Me and my partner have been together for quite some time. But throughout my pregnancy He really started, just letting me down. Not being the partner I needed and not really being supportive. So during that process I've kind of just like started losing feelings and having resentment towards him. Rcently, he started work again. Which means I only see him once a week. And sometimes not even that, so it's just me and the baby.
So, any advice on how to like bring the spark back in our relationship, or if it's even worth fighting for? I love him and I want this to work, but I just don't know what to do.

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AITA

We have 3 kids under 5 including a 4 month old.

We have had discussions about increasing intimacy which i have been really trying. I have gone through quite bad ppd and plays and I also have severe endometriosis and had had issues with contraception so I was bleeding for abiht 12 weeks pp.

I have been giving it my all. On friday he got a bj without asking and because he was sick, I ran around him, feeding him making him honey lemon teas etc.

Saturday was crazy, our son was acting up and it was.overall a really strwasful day coupled by the face that our 2 year old vomited twice on friday night so we had very little sleep and I was up with the baby as well. He asked for sex and I said that I didnt feel up to it and now (sunday) I am being punished big time. Attitude, being told to go away, that he's done with me, that I'm never there for him.

So am I in the wrong? I agreed to work in intimacy but now I feel like I can't say no or I'm going to get punished even though je got some the day before???

Edit- Its just getting worse, hes now saying that we are over because i said no and apparently that was me stopping trying and 'he really needed me' I tried to explain that I was on limited sleep from the night before and our son had been really hard all day (possible serious adhd) and I was exhausted. Hes now saying hes going to go have sex with someone else and take a picture to rub in my face

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