Unacceptable comments
Feeling very frustrated and angry at my partners comments. For context, we both work full time but I do 100% of the cooking and taking care of the household. He only helps assist with school pickups on the days I’m in the office. I ensure ALL of his food is prepped throughout the week which involves lots of batch cooking and I also cook fresh meals for dinner on the days I’m working at home. Keeping in mind he has never cooked for me or even heated up pre cooked food in the fridge for me, I come home from working in the office and there will be stacks of dishes even if he’s been at home on his day off.
This morning I have had terrible period cramps and he saw me multiple times rocking back and forth and in different positions trying to calm my cramps. It’s Sunday and usually he’d be working but he has the day off. We have come home from being out with the kids and he has asked me why I haven’t thought to cook for him.
I grew up in a home where Sunday dinners were cooked fresh and you spend time as a family, but he’s always working Sundays, only eats meal prep on that day and also he does not like me to cook when he is home. So today is no different, I have already pre cooked pasta bake, chicken, rice and potatoes and burgers in the fridge so there is plenty for the kids and him to eat.
He just told me that this is the reason why men (specifically referred to the man that his mother is dating who has a wife that he is cheating on but dating his mum for the benefits of her cooking and taking care of him). He referred to this man and said this is why men cheat, because the woman at home can’t be bothered but there’s other women out there that will do so much for them.
I am FURIOUS. I get no compassion when I have cramps and still expected to do everything. He doesn’t ever cook for me. It’s always what I should be doing for him!
Help with living on 2 floors 🤷♀️
I need help with something. This might not seem as serious for many, and I’m not sure why I find it so difficult but I need help in how to live and manage my daily life in a very very small 2 level (+ basement ) townhouse.
I’m a 35 year old female I moved here 8 months pregnant and my son is almost 2 and I have still not adjusted
The main floor has a small living room and dining room (no bathroom)
The 2nd floor has 2 bedrooms and bathroom
Basement has laundry and storage for pantry etc (and bathroom)
I find it complicating to go upstairs when I need something , then sometimes I reach up there I get distracted by something else
Now with our toddler , he doesn’t like to be left alone so with him in the picture it’s even more difficult
Also with our toddler , how to handle getting him dressed in the mornings to leave the house
Sometimes I get him dressed as he wakes up but when I go downstairs or eat , he sometimes messes himself up - I keep change of clothes downstairs but I sometimes don’t have a “suitable” outfit
Or should I get him dressed after eating
Idk I feel like I’ve been suffering and I’m not sure why - because I don’t know anyone living on 2 floors that find it as difficult as I do
I don’t hear my husband complain as much as me as it doesn’t bother him as much as me