just need to vent 😕

so I brought my beautiful baby boy into this word before getting married/being engaged with my boyfriend and he’s family has always treated me like an outsider and now with my baby here they love him to bits but are still pushing me off to the side and like to have side comments about how i’m raising him. idk i just feel like if i was married to my boyfriend they would be completely fine with my boundaries with baby. just wanted to vent

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What would you have done…?

Grandparents asked to take our daughter out for the day. She did not want to go (she’s 5) and has been saying since last night she didn’t want to go out on her own with them and couldn’t we all go.

So told my husband this and he said “she will change her mind when they are here” 🙄

They arrive and she says still, she absolutely does not want to go out and wants to stay with mummy and daddy.

I let her stay home = very angry grandparents.

Would you have made your child go?

Am I being tested? Wwyd?

- Partner says he's going for a quick bath
- Turns on the emersion as there's no hot water after his teenage son had one
- 2 hours later I ask him for support to make dinner
- he hasn't taken his bath yet so he says he'll have one and then make it for us
- another 2 hours go by before he comes down and decides to take our toddler for a walk. One which was completely random and out of routine.
- Finally he comes home and makes dinner

I'm absolutely starving - 6 months pregnant by the way. I'm avoiding conflict with him as he's trying to give up smokes right now, and I don't want our conflict being his reason for regressing and slipping back to his addiction

Inlaws/frosting

I don't know if I'm too emotional or what but my baby is 2 months old & my step FIL decided to give my girl a tiny finger of frosting. Knowing he wasn't supposed to be because he looked around the room seeing if anyone seen. I don't want people giving her anything she's not supposed to & i also feel like he just took that moment from me & dad. Am I wrong? I can't talk about it anywhere else & its been on my mind all night long because I'm so upset. & I'm not allowed to be.

Unacceptable comments

Feeling very frustrated and angry at my partners comments. For context, we both work full time but I do 100% of the cooking and taking care of the household. He only helps assist with school pickups on the days I’m in the office. I ensure ALL of his food is prepped throughout the week which involves lots of batch cooking and I also cook fresh meals for dinner on the days I’m working at home. Keeping in mind he has never cooked for me or even heated up pre cooked food in the fridge for me, I come home from working in the office and there will be stacks of dishes even if he’s been at home on his day off.

This morning I have had terrible period cramps and he saw me multiple times rocking back and forth and in different positions trying to calm my cramps. It’s Sunday and usually he’d be working but he has the day off. We have come home from being out with the kids and he has asked me why I haven’t thought to cook for him.

I grew up in a home where Sunday dinners were cooked fresh and you spend time as a family, but he’s always working Sundays, only eats meal prep on that day and also he does not like me to cook when he is home. So today is no different, I have already pre cooked pasta bake, chicken, rice and potatoes and burgers in the fridge so there is plenty for the kids and him to eat.

He just told me that this is the reason why men (specifically referred to the man that his mother is dating who has a wife that he is cheating on but dating his mum for the benefits of her cooking and taking care of him). He referred to this man and said this is why men cheat, because the woman at home can’t be bothered but there’s other women out there that will do so much for them.

I am FURIOUS. I get no compassion when I have cramps and still expected to do everything. He doesn’t ever cook for me. It’s always what I should be doing for him!

Is it normal or common for 10 year olds to engage in sexual activities?

I just read this in a comment section and I’m flabbergasted. Is this a common thing?

Help with living on 2 floors 🤷‍♀️

I need help with something. This might not seem as serious for many, and I’m not sure why I find it so difficult but I need help in how to live and manage my daily life in a very very small 2 level (+ basement ) townhouse.

I’m a 35 year old female I moved here 8 months pregnant and my son is almost 2 and I have still not adjusted

The main floor has a small living room and dining room (no bathroom)
The 2nd floor has 2 bedrooms and bathroom
Basement has laundry and storage for pantry etc (and bathroom)

I find it complicating to go upstairs when I need something , then sometimes I reach up there I get distracted by something else

Now with our toddler , he doesn’t like to be left alone so with him in the picture it’s even more difficult

Also with our toddler , how to handle getting him dressed in the mornings to leave the house

Sometimes I get him dressed as he wakes up but when I go downstairs or eat , he sometimes messes himself up - I keep change of clothes downstairs but I sometimes don’t have a “suitable” outfit

Or should I get him dressed after eating

Idk I feel like I’ve been suffering and I’m not sure why - because I don’t know anyone living on 2 floors that find it as difficult as I do

I don’t hear my husband complain as much as me as it doesn’t bother him as much as me