These messages bother me from my mother in law for some reason

Idk why they bother me. It feels like she wants me to mother him

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Yes she definitely expect you to mother him. I would tell her that he is a grown up and he can care for his 5 hours sleep

Yes that’s exactly the vibe I got. Take it with a grain of salt 🧂. Shes just a mom worrying about her baby. Now if she takes it further condemning you for not taking care of him or anything like that ; then that def warrants a reaction…. Because you are not his mother ; you are his wife and yes you are meant to take care of each other, but that responsibility doesn’t solely lye on you ; he has a responsibility to take care of himself and his family, same as you.

Why is she asking you if his health has improved!? She can ask him herself! He's a grown man!
When I first read the messages without context, I thought ishe was trying to tell you how to parent your child and I was thinking what audacity she has! Then I saw it was about her own son who is a grown man!
You need to show him and get him to deal with her

I can kind of understand why she’s asking you and not him. He may just tell her he’s fine and to avoid worrying her. My mom and MIL will text the other spouse when one of us are sick and may be resting more, etc.

That’s annoying

If that's his reaction then it sounds like you also have a husband problem..

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20 month old tantrums are killing me off...

I've done something I very rarely do and dropped my toddler off at my mum's for an hour to go and have a coffee alone. Sleep regression and teething and my periods due is turning me into a pressure cooker of anger atm. It's at the point where we're having 5+ tantrums before breakfast nowadays. One because he doesn't want his morning nappy changed and dressed for the day. Then he doesn't want daddy to go for a shower, he wants him to read books with him. Then because he wants to go downstairs while I'm trying to get dressed and quickly do my hair...then because I wouldn't let him watch teletubbies...then because I said he can't go outside into the wet garden with no jumper or shoes and socks...😭😭
I am... exhausted....
I use half an hour of teletubbies most mornings to allow myself peace to get the cleaning up and prep for the day done but I think I'll have to just say no TV at all anymore because of his behaviour over it. When does it get a tiny bit easier or have I just got an angry little boy....

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Dentist Question

I have a white filling in my front tooth that broke this morning - it's very obvious, looks terrible and I'm devastated.

It's very sharp where it's broken and feels sensitive but not painful. I phoned my dentist and I've managed to get an urgent appointment with them for 10:45 tomorrow morning.

I'm really hoping they'll be able to replace it for me, but am worried they'll refuse to do anything because I'm 8 months pregnant. Has anyone else had anything happen, or have any kind of experience that might inform on what they'll likely do tomorrow? I know it probably sounds really superficial, but this is such an insecurity for me and I don't want to look like this for long 😭

Husband is upset I won’t support his career change

My husband hates his job, and it’s back breaking work for very low pay. I’ve been encouraging him to change his careers, but he says he has no dreams. I told him to really think about what he likes and what he’s good at, and he finally came up with a career he’d like to explore. The issue is that this specific career is not something I am willing to support. He brought it up and I was immediately appalled, so he shut down and told me nevermind and that he’s sorry he brought it up. He said he just thought about what he’s very good at, and I said he’s good at lots of other things. I never thought this was the direction he would turn, and it’s probably the one job I am putting my foot down on. Now he won’t talk to me about new careers at all.

I honestly feel stupid even saying what the job he wants is. Just know it’s not a respectable job I want the father of my children having, in my opinion.

Overwhelmed

At this point I feel like a single parent. My significant other helps very little. I’m the one who clothes her, change her diaper, feeds her, puts her to bed…he complains he works 10 hours a day to support us and I understand that but I’m screaming for freaking help sometimes. I’m 18 weeks pregnant with our second baby and I handle our daughter 24/7 while he gets to sleep, play his game and go freaking smoke MJ. I feel so stressed, overwhelmed, overstimulated and exhausted. Am I a horrible person to ask for a little help from him??? He makes me feel horrible for even asking him for help or to even watch her for 20 minutes so I can get a damn shower…..I’m so so freaking lost and tired….i feel like nothing is going to change when I have our next baby in August…..