Should I Get Over It?

I think the help would be very beneficial for you but that doesn’t mean you need to get back with your BD does it?

Where does your family live ? I wouldn’t move that far personally but that’s up to you . Having a village is nice but they shouldn’t support his emotional cheating , he could have have physically cheated on you too and there’s no way of finding out .

Honestly my ex husband was constantly emotionally cheating and i thought i could just get iver it but it just never stopped. Do yourself a favor and leave. You dont deserve that and neither does your baby

It won’t stop. And when he’s away from you, it will probably ramp up. I’ve been with mine for almost 5 years and he’s done the emotional cheating almost from day 1. I ended up having an emergency c-section and that night, while I stayed in the hospital, he went home and talked to someone. The day our child was born.

It’s caused me to be diagnosed with cptsd. It will wear on you, break you down. Sometimes you may even try to convince yourself it’s ok and you’ll get used to it, but you don’t. Each time hurts as much or more than the last.

I know what it is to need the help, but you need to get away from it. Don’t stay like I have. It’ll destroy you little by little until you feel like there’s nothing left and you won’t be any good to your child at that point.

Mine is in custody so I’ve had a break. Hopefully I won’t be stupid and let him come back. Again.

Oh mama that is so hard! I commend you for trying to work it out. You’re so strong and worthy! What a dilemma and difficult decision to make! You deserve so much more than that cheating and I feel you on the parents taking his side. It’s hard to accept help from people who don’t care about your wellbeing. I’ll be praying for you

Tbh, no one can make this decision for you. Only you can decide if you should forgive him or not. It’s crazy they said it doesn’t count. Regardless of if it “counts” or not, y’all already went through this. He was very aware of your boundaries. If I were in your situation, I’d move in with them. You said you don’t necessarily have to get back together to move there. I know it left a bad taste in your mouth, BUT they are always going to defend him no matter what. It’s probably not any deeper than that. It sounds like they are a good support system. I’d just make it extremely clear you won’t be getting back together and you won’t consider it for a very long time until he can prove he wants your family together.

Accept the help but put a pause on that relationship