Should I Get Over It?

I met my BD August 2024 and found out I was pregnant February 2025. few days after I found out I was pregnant, I went through his phone and saw him flirting online with strangers. I had caught him a couple months before that on a dating app and thought that was behind us. I was angry and still tried to work things out after he begged and swore it wouldn’t happen again. I was 30 weeks pregnant when I caught him on Tinder again. To my knowledge he’s never physically cheated but I still count what he did as cheating. I crashed all the way out on him and at 7 months postpartum, we’re not together anymore because I’ve been giving him hell about it. But I admit, I’ve been allowing my rage to get the best of me and he told his family about it. His mom and sister told me that because it wasn’t physical then it doesn’t count as cheating and it has really put a bad taste in my mouth about them. They’re really cool people outside of that though and they help out so much. Way more than my own family. His mom and sisters want me to move 8 hours away to be closer to them so they can help me out more with the babies (I have 7 month old twins) My BD is in the Army and deploying soon so I’ll have no physical support at all if I stay here. Should I let it go and accept the help?

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I think the help would be very beneficial for you but that doesn’t mean you need to get back with your BD does it?

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Where does your family live ? I wouldn’t move that far personally but that’s up to you . Having a village is nice but they shouldn’t support his emotional cheating , he could have have physically cheated on you too and there’s no way of finding out .

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Honestly my ex husband was constantly emotionally cheating and i thought i could just get iver it but it just never stopped. Do yourself a favor and leave. You dont deserve that and neither does your baby

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