Baby shower dilemma
So for my baby shower IV sent out an invite along with my registry to all guests, as I’d never show up to a baby shower or any kind of party empty handed even for party’s if I don’t really know the person well I’ll get them a large bottle of alcohol or a candle or gift card, I would litterly never show up empty handed to any kind of party.
So I’ve sent out the invite and registry to all my friends and family, when it was my husbands turn to send out the invite and the registry he was against sending the registry and didn’t like the thought of asking people for gifts.
I told him it’s not so much asking for gifts it’s more a guideline because inevitably people will want to buy a gift and I don’t want anyone spending their money on something I won’t use as it’ll just gather dust.
My registry is full of very cheap £5 to more pricey £67 gifts so everyone has a general idea of what to get me whatever their budget is.
My husband has proceeded to invite people who barley know us and not sent them the registry and said he’s not sending it because they don’t really talk, and he doesn’t like the thought of asking people for gifts my issue is, if you “don’t really talk” whyyyyyy would you invite them to such an intimate event as a baby shower?!!
Tell me do you agree with me or my husband?
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The point of the shower is to “shower” the new mom or parents in gifts of items that they need to care for a new child.
A shower is intended for your close community and those who love and support you and your immediate circle.
I had two showers, one with all our friends, more of a couples shower. And another that was the people who have supported us via family. Aunts, neighbors, friends of the family and of our parents.
It would be rude to not bring a gift to a party where the entire point is to bring a gift.
i kind of understand what both of you are thinking, i dont think a few people bringing mischelenious gifts would ruin the entire party. i do think that it might be a good discussion to have over privacy and how you feel about the event. itd benifit you both to communicate effectivly, it helps for me to write down my thoughts and outline what i want out of something maybe you could both try that? afterall its both of your babys shower and you both should contribute ideas, i hope it goes well for you and you have a great baby shower nontheless!
Caveat: I know one of my husband’s friends did a Dad shower with his first child five years ago. But is was a casual thing with his friends, and was less about gifts and more about celebrating his upcoming fatherhood.
They called it “A Baby is Brewing” and it was an excuse to invite a bunch of dudes to a brewery and drink beer. I believe some people brought a package of diapers, but that was totally optional.
Maybe your husband would be more comfortable with that kind of event?
Generally, a traditional shower is just the mom-to-be and the guests who are also usually the women of your community. We did a couples shower because we have lots of couples friends and we didn’t want to leave out their male partners.
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