Feeling isolated?
Currently 18 weeks pregnant. Does anyone else feel isolated/lonely?
I don't have any other friends that are currently or recently pregnant, I can no longer go to my martial arts classes I went to twice a week. I feel like absolutely everything that I enjoyed has kind of been stripped. My friends are all at that point where they have started going out on nights out again after kids or don't have them so don't want to spend a Saturday night with a pregnant woman.
My other half is around but sometimes will go to the pub to watch football etc (which he's free to do)
I feel so blessed to be pregnant, just to be clear. I just want to know if this is common..
I haven't joined any classes for mums to be yet, I'm waiting til I'm a little further on.
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I feel this 1000%, what I did was just spend more time with my mum even if we weren’t doing anything just being int the same room as someone else made me feel so much better xx
i have hg so i've been basically house-confined and most of my friends haven't even thought about kids. ironically enough, pregnancy seems to me to be the most restrictive part of motherhood in many ways... it can be really lonely! i'm here if you want a chat xx
This is the exact reason I'm on this app. I was feeling so desperately lonely, I would cry myself to sleep at night. It is such a different world being pregnant the second time. When I was pregnant with our first, my husband and I had no other responsibilities, we would lie awake at night talking baby names, feeling little one kick, we did a Hypnobirthing course together, and later I did an antenatal group where I met 4 women who I am still friends with now. We were all similar gestations, and my husband and I were 100% in the journey together. This time, my husband is working 2 jobs, I'm a full time student, and we have a nearly-3 year old to wrangle. We're all in bed by 8pm most nights, and my husband and I are sleeping apart because he snores and I need my space for my sanity (this has saved our relationship, truly, despite the disconnect of being apart). I have one friend who is pregnant but much further along and she isn't the most chatty of people a lot of the time. It is so lonely. It is so hard.
It's nice to know that im not the only one feeling this, I've been making friends through this app and decided to start doing stuff for me rather than waiting for other people to do stuff with. It's just a big adjustment I wasn't expecting when becoming pregnant.
I’m currently pregnant with twins and no one I know has ever had twins, and the novelty has definitely worn off with people I usually talk to about it. I have two other kids (2 and 4) and they are the only ones I see other than on the school run and when my other half comes home from work he’s having time with the kids then it’s time for bed and do it all over again. Other people I could talk to work full time and my sister who is in another time zone so it’s not easy. Definitely understand the loneliness 😬
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I feel like I’m struggling to get past this and that he would come home coked up and want to look after our baby but I don’t know if I am overreacting and I would rather be told straight up if I am!
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