How to break up with someone who won't let you?

We've been fighting non stop and then today was the last straw. He didn't call me back earlier and I call him and he's saying he's going to take a nap because he's really drunk and can't drive home. This was after having the dumbest argument earlier in the day. Every time we get into it, he says he's done and doesn't want to do this anymore. I say ok and then he comes back to egg it on more. Then if I don't call him or I'm not as responsive, it's an even bigger issue. I feel depleted. If I block him, it'll just make things blow up even more and he'll know how to hurt me because of it. Ugh please help. We don't have kids together or live together but our lives are so intertwined and we do share a business

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You need to learn the art of “okay” he does it to get a reaction but if you stop reacting and just say okay then he can’t hurt you. Is the business official or a start up? Because you know there legalities to that if it is a true business. Are you willing to leave it or try to fight him on it? If you ghost him can you make sure he can’t do anything with the business? There’s a lot to this tbh so honestly if you have to… ghost him.

First, If he has a key, change the locks. Second,if he has anything of his at your place put it outside. Do NOT let him back in for anything, if you can’t just leave his stuff outside use a third party to hand off stuff. Make sure that 3rd party is safe. Someone who will have your back so that if he needs to communicate you about anything including business related topics you can use that. But also get lawyers to draw up paperwork to cut ties with the business. Start getting the locks changed asap like I said before you communicate further with him. So that way he can’t just barge in. Once you got the locks sent send a clear text message. One that states you are done. Tell him to longer contact you and if he needs to get ahold of you for business then they can reach out to said 3rd party. Stay strong. You can do this! If you need to talk my inbox is open.

It is not fair that he thinks it is okay to ignore you but then he acts up when you ignore him. That is hypocritical of him.

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