Insensitive husband.

So overall my hubby is kind & supportive of most things but at times a bit of a joker and can be quite immature (like most men)

I had a Vbac with my second but it was really traumatic so I’ve decided on an elective Section which is booked for 3 weeks time.

I’m obviously nervous like anyone would be as it’s major surgery but my husband has said things like “you do have life insurance don’t you” or “just cos you’re having a planned procedure doesn’t mean things can’t go wrong” 🙄 I said you shouldn’t be saying things like that you. He was trying to push me to have another normal birth but I have my good reasons not to & I still don’t think he’s on board!

I think maybe it’s cos he knows he will have to do more after a section than a normal delivery 🤷🏻‍♀️
Men are so insensitive sometimes. I mean do you think there’s any logic in what he’s saying?

in our community

Left over nappies

What do people do with leftover nappies when their babies go up a size, I have lots of size 1,2 and 3 from when my baby sizes up and im not sure what to do with them , binning seems wrong , charity and food and living banks only take them when it’s a sealed brand new pack , what do you do with your leftovers

Lump in breast when breastfeeding

I have found a lump in my breast that is sore to touch and hard. It feels kind of moveable. Has anyone had this while breastfeeding? It’s not mastitis as I’ve had that a few times

Confession one time I met a cool mom on here

We hung out in person like 5 times and it seemed pretty good. Our kids got along. I was struggling with post partum depression and I missed a few of her texts and didn’t see and I convinced myself she ghosted me and I got super mad and I suppose she thought I did the same to her and we didn’t speak for like 3 months. Then we tried hanging out again and again convinced myself she didn’t like me and that there was weird vibes and we never spoke again. After my post partum went away I realize she never ghosted me and there wasn’t really anything weird. 🤦🏻‍♀️🤦🏻‍♀️🤦🏻‍♀️friendship lost.

Napping in seperate room

My baby is 15 weeks old and goes to bed at 7.00pm, he wakes for a feed at 5.00am and then goes back down until 8.00am. We used to keep him downstairs in a moses basket in the evenings until we both went up to bed and would transfer him to his next to me cot. However, he now struggles to sleep in the living room even with dim lighting and talking quietly etc, so we have started putting him down in his next to me cot upstairs in our bedroom at 7.00pm and he is much more settled.

I know that NHS guidance is for baby to sleep in the same room as you anytime of the day or night until 6 months old, however 7.00pm is too early for us to go up to bed and we often haven’t had chance to eat or do chores by that time.

How are other parents managing to eat dinner, do chores and spend any time together as adults?

Bath time

My 1 year old randomly started hating baths she used to love them and now all she will scream and yell and want out right when she goes in ( nothing has happened for her to act like this just our normal night time routine) has anyone experienced this?

Episiotomy fear

If you’ve had tearing or an episiotomy please be real with me here, I’m a ftm absolutely terrified about tearing. Logically, I’d rather have the episiotomy than it tearing on its own so it can heal better, but the thought of them having to cut down there makes me want to cry and scream and crawl out of my skin😖
Did you feel the tear or cut when it happened? Was it painful or just like “oh shit yikes”? How much pain did you still feel during recovery?
I’m filling out the birth preference form my hospital gave me, but it doesn’t have anything on here about this. I’m thinking of writing that I give them permission to make the cut if they think it’s necessary, but if possible I don’t want to know about it until after the birth is over. Is that a reasonable request?
This is causing me so much anxiety, more than contractions or labor pain itself for some reason😅