Pavlik Harness Covers

Can you please share where you got your Pavlik harness covers (links if possible)? I’ve only seen them on Etsy and with shipping it comes up to almost £50 for one set which seems too much. Thank you!

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Do you wash your hands after changing a nappy?

I've been to quite a few baby groups where I've noticed a lot of her mums don't wash their hands after they change their baby. they just change them in the room and then carry on with the class. Personally, I find it gross and the same as going to the toilet without washing your hands. I wondered whatever everyone else thought.

Am I too secretive?

So hear me out, I found out I was 6 weeks pregnant 2 weeks ago. My husband excited, I was excited. Now we lost a baby in the past. 1 stillbirth and 1 miscarriage. So I feel like I don’t want to share with any family or outsiders that I’m pregnant because of all the negativity and I want to feel more secure in my pregnancy before I discuss anything. We also have been having issues in our marriage with him being in an emotionally enmeshed relationship with his mother and having stability issues. So we been working on trying to attain this house and a new car and have a better grip on our finances. My husband and I discussed keeping the pregnancy, the house and the car between us until things manifest. I’m big on letting life build and manifest before we go telling people. His mother and me are also not cool. She hasn’t been a fan of me from the very beginning of our relationship. Again she wants him as her 2nd husband, (if you understand emotional enmeshing and triangulation, this has been her relationship with my husband) she also thinks she is this big prophetess woman who has dreams and God tells her everything. She has been avoidant towards me and has been hoping our relationship ends. We have a five year old daughter together and a 19 month old son. So why would she want the relationship to end is beyond me, except so that she can pretend she had a dream about it and that she predicted this to his family. ANYWAY fast forward I started having cramps last week and have been bleeding for 8 days. More than likely I had a miscarriage or chemical pregnancy because I know the baby haven’t had a heartbeat yet (my doctors appointment is next week) Now again we agreed to keep this all private until things manifest. So his mom going through her own divorce and issues and she been blowing up my husband phone for days. Now when he talks to his mom he gets so wrapped in her world and her emotions and then thinks she is so wise, so he said to me he was going to learn how to be more responsible and grow as a man. Of course he gets tied into her web again, talks to her, gets to drinking and tells her all of our plans about the house, the car, the pregnancy , our conversations about divorce, all our marital issues! And his mom loves to gossip and laugh at our situation. I found out he told her all this because he was talking to her on the phone today on speaker phone and he like “man we better get this house and the car and blah blah”, and then she was like “now what about the baby?” And he hurried up and took her off of speaker. So when I wanted to talk to him about how I feel like he violated our agreement we had about his relationship with his mother, about our private life until it manifests , about the pregnancy and everything. He said he was like “I don’t be knowing what to talk about with them and f**k it I told everything and that you’re too secretive.” ‼️Now, I don’t feel like I’m secretive, I feel like a husband and wife should live life of their own, have their own private life and share what they want to share when they both agree to. So I feel like he violated our trust and keeps continuing to bring his mother and family into our relationship without my consent, and she is already hoping our marriage ends because hers is ending. Am I being secretive or does husband and wife really keep things between each other and he just violated our trust?

Insensitive husband.

So overall my hubby is kind & supportive of most things but at times a bit of a joker and can be quite immature (like most men)

I had a Vbac with my second but it was really traumatic so I’ve decided on an elective Section which is booked for 3 weeks time.

I’m obviously nervous like anyone would be as it’s major surgery but my husband has said things like “you do have life insurance don’t you” or “just cos you’re having a planned procedure doesn’t mean things can’t go wrong” 🙄 I said you shouldn’t be saying things like that you. He was trying to push me to have another normal birth but I have my good reasons not to & I still don’t think he’s on board!

I think maybe it’s cos he knows he will have to do more after a section than a normal delivery 🤷🏻‍♀️
Men are so insensitive sometimes. I mean do you think there’s any logic in what he’s saying?

Are you still breastfeeding?

The doctor has just told me that there’s no benefit past a year. And when I said that’s a weird thing to say, he told me it’s a fact.

Naps

Anyone else’s LO still napping 30/40 minutes at a time?
He’s 6 months next week!
I feel like he’s been doing this forever and thought he’d give me a good hour or so by now 😩

He can link sleep cycles at night as he does a good 5 hour stretch but through the day he is up after half an hour everytime! (Even contact naps)

Baby waking up at 6am

Feel like I’m doing something wrong… My baby keeps waking up all the time at 6am or just before that. This is way too early for me… 🫠
Is or was anyone on the same boat as me?
If you were, what did you change for baby to sleep at least until 7-7:30am?
Current bed time is 7:30pm. Had to bring it earlier as he only takes 30min naps during the day (since week 12 and we are 19 now!!) so by the end of the day he is very fussy and impossible to deal with..
thought about putting him for the nap instead of bedtime and then put him sleep late so he wakes up later in the morning but his last nap (around 5-5:30pm) it’s terrible! He fights it like crazy so I guess another one would only be worse.. I think 🤔

He also wakes up at night constantly around 2-3am for a feed. I guess he is hungry because he eats full bottle but he eat quite a lot during the day so I’m surprised he is waking up for food..