Unhappy in marriage
Okay this is such a vulnerable post and I am aware you ladies don’t know me or my situation so I’ll try and paint it as best I can.
My husband on paper is an incredible man. He tends to me the best way he can, is so good with taking on stuff around the house, has been there for my sister when she needed help like moving etc but there’s one thing. I am not happy and don’t think he is either. We recently got married and had our baby. He really loves me but I just don’t think I feel the same. Now it was a very quick marriage as we are Christian’s but it’s starting to feel like that’s the only reason we got married. I got pregnant before our wedding (we were engaged) and leading up to then it was great but now that I am in the heaps of it there was so much that I feel I missed out on. I am in my twenties and feel miserable. Didn’t do what I wanted to do career wise, wanted to go back to my home country, and in part feel it was a mistake marrying him. He’s great but it just doesn’t feel like he’s my person. Now you are probably wondering, “why did you marry him?” Because I thought it’s what I wanted and also partially due to what felt like the pressure to get married. We had external sources say it’s best to marry before the baby is born etc but I am so unhappy. He just breathes and I get the ick. Now this is where I feel lost… I don’t know if I am just incredibly unhappy within myself and I just need to resolve this OR, he genuinely isn’t my person. I used to be very bubbly and outgoing but through the years I had some personal and family issues occur. He was there to support me but in many ways he didn’t know how. I feel incredibly confused on what to do because I don’t feel like this is how it should be. I feel so lonely, scared and depressed. Sorry ladies I know this is such a heavy one and trust me I am not proud of myself. I think I just want validation but if you were to paint a reality check, what would it be? Because I think most of the time we just want our feelings to be heard but not actually do anything about it and I know intellectually I am keeping myself in this place but struggling to face reality.
Venting! Please share my anger with me lol
Sooooo my toddlers father acted like he doesn't know when Easter is.
I said it's Sunday. Literally this Sunday. 🙄
I asked him if he's going to exercise his right to spend some of the holiday with our toddler.
He said no. That he will be busy spending it with his other kid (16 yr old from his 1st baby mama) in a theater that isn't toddler friendly.
I said okay, just so we're clear, you were given the opportunity. And then I ended the convo. (It's a court order that he is allowed to exercise his right to holidays)
Here's my problem.
This dude cant use some time in his day before or after the movie to toss some eggs in a field, give our lil one a bucket, and say "go pick em up!"? .....no Easter basket? Nothing? Wtf dude.
Not even take him for a happy meal or an ice cream cone?
Not just chill in the car and vibe to music? Nothing??? Lol the bar is set so low!
I honestly see it as him choosing the company of 1 child over the other on a holiday.
He doesn't live with the 16 yr old. He isn't with the mother of that child either.
I could understand if he woke up in a home that had kids living in it with him... And that was an entire priority that he had to manage
But this is literally him doing eenie meeny miny mo!
THAT'S FINE THO!
this mama has the Easter basket ready, the egg hunt ready, the ham dinner ready!
I don't vent in front of my child so I came here to do it, sorry for the long message ladies! And Happy Easter lol 🐇🥚🍫🐰🐣🧺
