Am I in the wrong?

my almost 6 month old baby goes to my sister or my mum three times a week while I work, my mother in law works full time and doesn’t have any set days off. This week she wanted to have my baby on Friday for the full day while I work. Firstly I don’t want to disrupt the arrangements but secondly I don’t feel comfortable her having my baby for the full day, she has seen her 4 times in 3 months. I have told her and she says she doesn’t understand, it’s her granddaughter…

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Pov: you get married in 2027, already have a 3 year old, would you take them on the "honeymoon"?

I think we should treat the honeymoon as a family holiday and all go together. My fiancé thinks it should just be the two of us. Thoughts?

Weaning

Has anyone started weaning their baby yet? Mine is 4 and a half months old and I’m thinking of starting her on baby porridge as she’s on 8oz bottles every 3 hours but always seems hungry

Anyone have a husband like this?

I work 2 full time jobs, pay all my own bills including buying all the stuff for my child that he steps parents. The only thing he pays for is rent (I pay utilities) and car insurance. I pay for everything else. Well, I just found out that he makes $20k a month. He brags to his friends that he pays for all my bills and takes care of my child ALL the time. All he does is pick him up from daycare (because it’s close to his work) and occasionally puts him to bed.

Everything we do has to benefit him in some way. We can never do anything I want to do without him throwing a tantrum like a child. He even goes to every work event with me, every hangout, I’m never alone unless I’m physically at work but he’ll randomly just show up to see what I’m doing. I’ve gotten to the point where everything gets to me emotionally and I’m on edge - I can’t even talk to him about my work day anymore without him bitching, I don’t have friends and when I make friends he hates all them and think they’re using me to find men. He tells everyone I’m crazy and need to be on medication even though he’s the one that’s been making me feel this way.

I honestly don’t know what to do anymore. The economy sucks, I don’t get child support and I have so much debt from our wedding because I had to take loans out. (He only paid for the venue)

Please any advice.

Am I in the wrong?

So my ex (kiddos dad) and i live together as roommates. I mad a friend and we would hang out sometimes but its gotten more serious. The past two weeks iv been going to her house more and more staying for maybe an hour or 2 after kiddo goes to sleep. I have spent the night one time at her house and then planned to do it again this week but for 2 nights (after kiddo goes to sleep) hes mad because hes "stuck" there and says im treating him as a live in baby sitter.... he like "what if I have plans" I asked "what are your plans, if you have plans i will cancel" hes like "I dont but I could" to which I replied and said "well if you tell me when you do, I can cancel." Its just so frustrating...hes upset because he has to wake up with her even though i have done that every single night for last 4 years. I take care of her all day and some nights leave for 1-2 hours while shes sleeping. Most times I come back and he is still awake while shes been asleep. Its just frustrating.

Kissing Babies

what’s the thoughts on other people kissing your babies???
my LO 4mo and I only let me and his dad kiss him.
My partners family keep asking when they can / going to do it until I stop them.
It just makes me feel soooo uncomfortable I don’t think I’ll ever want anyone else to.
I think the fear is coming from being a dental assistant 🤣

Dad isn’t great with our baby - help!

TLDR: my BD cannot calm our baby. I tried to help by sharing what I do but he hates feedback and gets very upset. I don’t think he knows how to emotionally regulate himself. You can feel the tension in the air the second she starts crying. What can I do?? Will this ever go away??

Long version:
First time parents with a 4 month old. He had 12 weeks of paternity leave after she was born so they have had time to bond. He was great for the first 6 weeks, but as her brain started to wake up, he’s been struggling to soothe her. As in literally cannot.

I think the biggest issue is his emotional regulation. He gets visibly rigid and irritated when she starts to cry. He’s made comments like “I’d help but she f^cking hates me” and “I never thought you and I would end up with a bad baby” I’ve told him to never joke about that or say those things out loud. And the truth is, she’s a very happy baby… when he’s at work. She’s all smiles and giggles and goes to sleep within minutes when it’s just her and me.

When she fusses with him I stay out of the way in the hopes they will find something that works. Eventually he gives up and hands her over to me, very frustrated. I might rock or shush in a more gentle way but all he sees is the same motion working and he gets very angry about it. The worst part is that he is so upset when I’m able to sooth her that he has to leave the room.

He does not like feedback of any kind. I tried “maybe some rhythmic shushing” or “let’s step outside to help break the crying fit” and it only made him more mad, which ended up making her cry more.

So - the ask - is this normal?! How long will this last? How can I help my BD and baby get along??

And for context, she is bottle/formula fed (supply issues 💔) so it’s not a boob thing.

Am I in the wrong?

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Pov: you get married in 2027, already have a 3 year old, would you take them on the "honeymoon"?

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Anyone have a husband like this?

Am I in the wrong?

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Dad isn’t great with our baby - help!