Baby abroad with dad

I need genuine advice whether I’m being crazy.

BD wants to take our baby who will be 12 months at the time abroad to meet his family in Georgia. He currently has her every Sunday, she’s not even been round there overnight yet. This is due to drug charges and other reasons I won’t get into.

We don’t have a court order it is informal arrangent. I have done everything myself for the past 9 months, from sleepless nights, breastfeeding to weaning. I am the primary caregiver.

I am so filled with anxiety at the thought of her being without me for a week let alone abroad?! He’s kicked off and said I’m being unreasonable and it’s not fair.

Is this normal or what? Asking me for reasons why I’m not ok with that?

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you’re not being unreasonable at all. especially since he hasn’t had her overnight yet. based off what you’ve said, i’m in a similar position where my 10 month old sees her dad every other saturday, not overnight, due to his drug use & i’ve basically done everything myself the past 10 months. and i would never let him take her abroad this young.
idk what your baby is like when away from you, but since your her primary parent i’m not sure she would like being away from you for that long either.
if it was me i definitely wouldn’t let him take her abroad without you, not until your babies older and has spent more time with him.
sorry if this isn’t helpful, but you’re completely valid with how you’re feeling

Nooo the reaction you have is completely normal because that would be a big NO for me, I don’t care if he’s the best dad in the world I can’t bear the thought of separating from my child for a week or ABROAD??

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