Have you ever been the ‘other woman’?

Knowingly or unknowingly (and then finding out afterwards)

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I never wanted what someone else had.. there are TOO many men to be fighting over 1 😆 if you don’t get men just say that because it’s literally not that hard

Been one too many times I’m afraid and I had no idea until after someone had told me about their girlfriends. It’s not a nice feeling regardless

Sadly I've been the other woman UNKNOWINGLY, and I have another question for everyone who voted for that as well: did you told the girlfriend after you found out??

Sadly yes once and when she reached out me I felt awful. I gave her any detail she asked for cuz I know he told her a bunch of lies.

There’s been two close calls with exes who wanted to get back together, but my Scorpio Stellium ass is way too much of a paranoid overworking PI agency so everything that could have turned out like that was found out before and not done

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I looked at his phone.

Since I got pregnant, my partner has been very secretive with his phone. Before, he was fine with me looking over his shoulder when he uses his phone but recently when I try to ask him who he was messaging, he would just put his phone away. There is this online friend that he started playing video games with during my pregnancy. They would play until after midnight so sometimes I would ask him if she was really just a friend and he would say im just being a paranoid jealous. I thought maybe I was but the thought of him cheating remained at the back of my mind.

Last night, I was in so much pain, and barely able to move at all. Meanwhile he was just stuck on his phone, said nothing at all, didnt even ask how I was doing.

I woke up around 2 am and he was asleep, his phone was near me and his game was on so his phone was unlocked. For the first time ever, I looked at his phone without him knowing. Looked at messages and i saw him texting his friend with I miss you. He also said 'I like you sorry just have to say it' and the last message being 'i could have woken you up by talking dirty to you' . One thing that irks me with his texts was it always ends with x with her but never with me or anyone else.

I know or I believe he hasnt physically cheated on me but this level of emotional cheating made me realise I was right all along. This is why he hasnt cared about me or my wellbeing since I gave birth, its because he likes this friend.

Partner cheated on me

My partner cheated on and around Christmas time i found out but i was also very early pregnant. Anyway the usual i’ll change behaviour and all was fine. The girl he cheated on me with messaged me today as she couldnt get hold of him and told me theyve been seeing each other for months again. I had a 12 day old baby and a nearly 21 month old daughter. I really dont know what to say or think anymore

12 days pp

12 days pp and i find out my partner has been cheating on me for months. Im not even surprised at this point but how he can do it whilst pregnant and with a newborn and a nearly 2 year old im unsure 😞 not even sure what im expecting from this post but i literally dont have anyone except my mum

finding friends under recommendation of my boyfriend

apparently i "need to make friends" and for once i won't argue him on it

23 with 7 week old, ky 🫶

Is it a red flag if a man has there notifcations turned off on everything

My boyfriend always says to me “ah the only people I speak to is you and my son” yet has every single notification turned off Fb. WhatsApp. Insta. If no one messaged you why would you have them turned off? To me it’s like he doesn’t want me seeing who messages him.
Then today I discovered he had his relationship status showing to only me and had it hidden from everyone else 🤣

Did I do the right thing??

I just blocked my boyfriend because I caught him out on something. So last week he took down his status of me and him being in a relationship. And I obviously rung and gave off and he changed it and put it back. But then today my friend went onto his Facebook and said his relationship status is still down but on my Facebook it says “in a relationship with …” so he has clearly changed his settings so only me and him can see the relationship status 🤣 I broke up with him and blocked him. I have felt hidden away the last while and tbh this is really snake behaviour