Is it a red flag if a man has there notifcations turned off on everything

My boyfriend always says to me “ah the only people I speak to is you and my son” yet has every single notification turned off Fb. WhatsApp. Insta. If no one messaged you why would you have them turned off? To me it’s like he doesn’t want me seeing who messages him.
Then today I discovered he had his relationship status showing to only me and had it hidden from everyone else 🤣

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Big red flag

𝕋𝕙𝕖 𝕣𝕖𝕝𝕒𝕥𝕚𝕠𝕟𝕤𝕙𝕚𝕡 𝕤𝕥𝕒𝕥𝕦𝕤 𝕓𝕖𝕚𝕟𝕘 𝕙𝕚𝕕𝕕𝕖𝕟 𝕚𝕤 𝕒 𝕣𝕖𝕕 𝕗𝕝𝕒𝕘.

𝔹𝕦𝕥, 𝕟𝕠𝕥𝕚𝕗𝕚𝕔𝕒𝕥𝕚𝕠𝕟𝕤 𝕓𝕖𝕚𝕟𝕘 𝕠𝕗𝕗? ℕ𝕠𝕥 𝕣𝕖𝕒𝕝𝕝𝕪.

𝕃𝕚𝕜𝕖, 𝕛𝕦𝕤𝕥 𝕓𝕖𝕔𝕒𝕦𝕤𝕖 𝕙𝕖 𝕠𝕟𝕝𝕪 𝕥𝕒𝕝𝕜𝕤 𝕥𝕠 𝕪𝕠𝕦 𝕒𝕟𝕕 𝕙𝕚𝕤 𝕤𝕠𝕟 𝕓𝕪 𝕥𝕖𝕩𝕥 𝕕𝕠𝕖𝕤𝕟'𝕥 𝕞𝕖𝕒𝕟 𝕡𝕖𝕠𝕡𝕝𝕖 𝕕𝕠𝕟'𝕥 𝕞𝕖𝕤𝕤𝕒𝕘𝕖 𝕙𝕚𝕞. ℍ𝕖 𝕡𝕣𝕠𝕓𝕒𝕓𝕝𝕪 𝕙𝕒𝕤 𝕟𝕠𝕥𝕚𝕗𝕚𝕔𝕒𝕥𝕚𝕠𝕟𝕤 𝕠𝕗𝕗 𝕤𝕠 𝕥𝕙𝕖 𝕞𝕖𝕤𝕤𝕒𝕘𝕖𝕤 𝕕𝕠𝕟'𝕥
𝕒𝕟𝕟𝕠𝕪 𝕙𝕚𝕞. 𝕀𝕥 𝕔𝕠𝕦𝕝𝕕 𝕒𝕝𝕤𝕠 𝕓𝕖 𝕓𝕖𝕔𝕒𝕦𝕤𝕖 𝕖𝕧𝕖𝕣𝕪𝕥𝕙𝕚𝕟𝕘 𝕖𝕝𝕤𝕖 𝕙𝕖 𝕘𝕖𝕥𝕤 𝕞𝕖𝕤𝕤𝕒𝕘𝕖𝕤 𝕗𝕣𝕠𝕞 𝕚𝕤 𝕤𝕡𝕒𝕞.

𝔹𝕦𝕥, 𝕚𝕗 𝕙𝕖 𝕚𝕤 ℝ𝕖𝕒𝕝𝕝𝕪 𝕠𝕟𝕝𝕪 𝕥𝕒𝕝𝕜𝕚𝕟𝕘 𝕥𝕠 𝕪𝕠𝕦 𝕒𝕟𝕕 𝕙𝕚𝕤 𝕤𝕠𝕟 𝕥𝕙𝕒𝕥 𝕒𝕝𝕤𝕠 𝕤𝕖𝕖𝕞𝕤 𝕍𝕖𝕣𝕪 𝕦𝕟𝕙𝕖𝕒𝕝𝕥𝕙𝕪 𝕒𝕟𝕕 𝕝𝕚𝕜𝕖 𝕙𝕖 𝕙𝕒𝕤 𝕒𝕟 𝕦𝕟𝕙𝕖𝕒𝕝𝕥𝕙𝕪 𝕒𝕥𝕥𝕒𝕔𝕙𝕞𝕖𝕟𝕥 𝕥𝕠 𝕪𝕠𝕦.

𝔼𝕧𝕖𝕣𝕪𝕠𝕟𝕖 𝕟𝕖𝕖𝕕𝕤 𝕥𝕠 𝕙𝕒𝕧𝕖 𝕗𝕣𝕚𝕖𝕟𝕕𝕤

i have my notifications off bc it creates problems for me cz i don’t really get texts but the relationship status is a huge red flag

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I looked at his phone.

Since I got pregnant, my partner has been very secretive with his phone. Before, he was fine with me looking over his shoulder when he uses his phone but recently when I try to ask him who he was messaging, he would just put his phone away. There is this online friend that he started playing video games with during my pregnancy. They would play until after midnight so sometimes I would ask him if she was really just a friend and he would say im just being a paranoid jealous. I thought maybe I was but the thought of him cheating remained at the back of my mind.

Last night, I was in so much pain, and barely able to move at all. Meanwhile he was just stuck on his phone, said nothing at all, didnt even ask how I was doing.

I woke up around 2 am and he was asleep, his phone was near me and his game was on so his phone was unlocked. For the first time ever, I looked at his phone without him knowing. Looked at messages and i saw him texting his friend with I miss you. He also said 'I like you sorry just have to say it' and the last message being 'i could have woken you up by talking dirty to you' . One thing that irks me with his texts was it always ends with x with her but never with me or anyone else.

I know or I believe he hasnt physically cheated on me but this level of emotional cheating made me realise I was right all along. This is why he hasnt cared about me or my wellbeing since I gave birth, its because he likes this friend.

Partner cheated on me

My partner cheated on and around Christmas time i found out but i was also very early pregnant. Anyway the usual i’ll change behaviour and all was fine. The girl he cheated on me with messaged me today as she couldnt get hold of him and told me theyve been seeing each other for months again. I had a 12 day old baby and a nearly 21 month old daughter. I really dont know what to say or think anymore