3 year old resisting potty training

Hiya. Any advice for potty training my three year old please? We've got various pottys and toilets/seats for him to use. We've tried sticker charts, bribery, I've even got a bag of presents and said he can choose one each time he uses the potty, but he just refuses. When I suggest it or try to make him go without a nappy he just gets upset. I don't want to turn it into a battle but don't know what else to try. Do I just wait for him to be ready? Or give him a deadline for wearing nappies and stick to it? I was going to do the naked for three days thing but it's just upsetting him. Help! Thank you

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My 3 year old resisted doing anything on the toilet or potty for 5 days when we started, but we persevered and after that, a few accidents for a few days then after that, barely any accidents. We didn't do bribes, we praised when she sat on there and especially when there was success (she particularly loves flushing the toilet herself). Any accidents that occurred we didn't react strongly, we would say something like "uh oh, wees go in the toilet or potty now!". Blowing bubbles didn't work for us but it's supposed to relax them to help them go.My sister put stickers inside my nephews potty and he likes weeing on them! It's hard because they know it's a big thing, can sense us being on pee watch, change in schedule etc, try to keep it as calm as possible and just something he has to learn now. I know some people go back and I was tempted after our difficult start but at 3 I knew she was ready and didn't want to set the example that it was optional. Have you taken him to choose pants, that sort of thing?

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I'd wait until he's ready. Forcing him now I'll just cause battles and upset for you both.

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Competition worked for my daughter. Daddy would come out of the toilet and i would applaud him and make a big deal out of it and give him stickers as reward. This got her going. she was 3 years and 5 months when she did it in the potty.

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I think it depends on what kind of "3" you are talking about. My son was a much bigger "3" going towards 4 when we had to force the issue by just putting him in pants and clothes. We had school on the horizon! He had no interest but he was not going to school untrained. If your child has only just turned 3 then I think a gentle consistent approach is better.

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