Tell me if I was over exaggerating the situation?

Long story short. Was in the shelter and got a one bedroom apartment for my daughter and I. I forgave her dad and started living with us. He has a son (years old) very smart young man. So now everyone lives here even though they have their own room individually at his mothers place. This man is a very disrespectful man. I’ve been paying over 3/4 of the rent and groceries by myself. I’ve mentioned to him that I need more help with rent and groceries. I don’t find it fair that four of us lives in here and eats and I am the one scraping my account to fill the gaps. We get paid the same amount of money and have more responsibilities but yet find away to cover what needs to be covered because it’s my place and I can’t afford to end back up in the shelter.
Anyways the situation is when there’s barely any food in here. And they eat a lot. His son tends to go in the kitchen at nighttime and eat everything that comes to his sight. So I’ll wake up the other day, all the fruits are pretty much gone and ca barely have snacks and fruits to send my daughter off to school. I told his father about the situation and the inconsideration about it. He spoke with him and it stopped for a while. I told him that I need hep with groceries and he didn’t help. So again I used what I had to buy groceries and some fruits. I am a juicer so I juice my fruits for myself because I don’t drink juice from boxes or so I make them. I bought a bunch of fruits for that. Bunch of bananas gone in 1 day. I didn’t say anything. Woke up the following morning the pineapple I cut up was gone one piece left. A tiny piece. So I asked you ate all that pineapple last night. No answer. So I asked him did he eat all that pineapple he said yes. So I told him it’s okay to take two to three pieces but everything is not good. So I said next time take some but not all. He went back to his father and told him. His father came to tell me I should not say anything to him about food. That I was wrong. In my defense I am not wrong because I’m the only one paying for groceries and saying most of the rent by myself. If you were helping out more I wouldn’t be this strict about certain things. He started disrespecting me in front of the kids. Telling me i want multiple d*cks at once that’s why I want him to leave. Told his son he should not take up a bitch like me who wants to fuck the world down and may become back with STDs no shit. Right then I told him he has to leave or else I am leaving. He continued with the disrespect in front the kids. So I asked for my keys he refused to give it back. So I was blocking the door demanding that he give me my keys back. His son said to me “ Yo watch out” mind you someone took as my own. Talking to me like that. Told him if he continue the disrespect the kids will eventually start disrespecting me. Last night my 3 years old is telling me to shut up minutes after he told me to shut the f up. That shit is hurting so much because I know it was going to happen and I tried to stop that. Told him multiple times stop talking to me like that in-front of the kids but he is a guy who likes to run his damn mouth. Please any advice because he’s helping out with his daughter so I can go to school. I don’t have anyone else to sit on days I need help or have school but him and his family. My family is in other states. I would have left and go be close to them but I am on a scholarship and already signed a contract and I refuse to repay something I didn’t uphold to. Please any advice. I live in New York so any baby sitter I’m willing to pay.

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How would you react ?

Today was my husband's day off and he woke up around 6 having coffee in bed and was on his phone. . At 7 a.m my little boy woke up and asked to go pee then at 7:30 asked to eat. I then took him and went downstairs to make breakfast and he got so frustrated and started an argument that on his day off he can't relax. I must say he was not sleeping, he was just staring at his phone and now he ignores my child and me.

2 weeks

I finally got my own apartment and left my husband 2 weeks ago today. Im honestly surprised how civil he's been. But I knew that he'd be with other women immediately, and I thought I was okay with that. The fact that he's still even with nothing to lose because I left, lying to me about being at another house is driving me crazy. I have his location and drove by there the other day so I know. Its. It healthy for me to concern myself with I know. But I cant handle the quickness and the lies. I know this is how he copes, he cant be alone and probably why hes being so nice after I left.

Spouse going to be away for work for half the week for most of this month maybe more .. any tips for me? Details below

So my husband is going to be working away from home and staying in a hotel for about half the week every week this month and possibly longer. This is entirely new to us. My son is 3 and has never experienced his dad being gone for that long. I don’t think he will be entirely devastated honestly because I’m the preferred parent but I still expect some challenges. Some things to consider: I do have some family in the area, I don’t drive and the grocery store in walking distance is expensive lol. So we plan on making sure I have a good grocery stock and can ask for help if I need it I guess for during the day .. but any other tips? I can’t shake the feeling that I’m missing something I should be preparing to make it easier in advance ..

help

I have two kids and I’m just fed up, years of physical and mentally abuse and the constant cheating my kids deserve better. my kids can’t goto school yet and I don’t trust local daycares. how do I still work my part time with little to no family ?

Advise!!!

Ok so this Easter Dad is supposed to have 5 nights with our 2yo (court ordered) I’m fine with it. I think our child will struggle as they already struggle with a 2 night stay, but it’s ordered so it has to happen. There is no mention in the order that these are in addition to his regular contact it just says the child will stay with the father for 5 nights at Easter, there was a conversation in court about it only been 5 as it was to build up the nights gradually.

He is now trying to tag it to his weekend meaning he will have 6/7 nights. I don’t agree with this as like I say 2 nights are hard for the child’s it is so 5 is going to be hard and I don’t want to add to it.

My solicitor has said until he agrees I should not let him have her. I agree and I don’t want to give into him as he is very much all about control and abusing me not doing what is right for the child but I am also conscious that the child then misses out on a little holiday away with his family all for the sake of 1/2 nights. It seems so silly.

What’s your thoughts and advice??

If you’re not close to your mom - what went wrong?

Now that I have kids I want a strong and close relationship with my babies. Something I didn’t have with my mom and still don’t.

My mom and I see each other once or twice a year and that’s if I go there to visit her. We don’t talk on the phone unless she wants to call me to ask my younger sisters to go back home.

Never comes over to see my 3 kids never calls to check on them avoids me when she sees me out with my family.

When I was a teen we argued non stop. For years until I left the house. But before that I was always the good child always listened always did what she asked. I was the oldest so did everything for her went above and beyond. I bought up my younger sisters stayed up late nights fed them changed nappies bath them took them out on weekends. My sisters don’t remember her doing any of these things because she never did them. And now she hates them staying at my house she calls non stop.

She’s manipulative and twists things a lot. I have other siblings and she pits us against each other without us realising. Only now as an adult I’m picking up on things and how she manipulates around things.