AITA
So my due date is in 10 days but obvs we donāt know when the baby will actually come. Anyway, my SIL is also pregnant (after 10 years of infertility) and I am so happy for her when I found out because the doctors had said they may never conceive. So she has her gender reveal on the 26th of April (which would be almost 2 weeks after due date) in either case I wouldnāt feel comfortable attending while newly postpartum and with a newborn baby where there will be lots of people I donāt even know, I said to my husband he should go just with my daughter, which he agreed but mentioned she might feel a certain way. I mean she needs to sort of be understandable, I just donāt want to put my baby at risk, and after I gave birth last time I made myself very unwell thinking Iām okay to go out and about earlier than I should. On top of this, she shouldnāt feel a certain way because in our culture it is crucial for the mum and baby to not leave the house for 40 days, and she knows this. Anyway I donāt think Iām being an Asshole, I just donāt want to put my baby at risk and especially because people from my country donāt know boundaries when it comes to babies (kissing them, holding them, passing them around)