We are waiting till birth to find out. But scheduling the anatomy scan and i want to look at the ultrasound but i feel like that might spoil the surprise.... should i look away?
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They will tell you when to look away if you tell them you’re not finding out

Just tell the tech you dont wannaknow, mine will turn off the screen do we can't see

The ultrasound tech should ask if you want to know before they reveal it! Just let them know you want it to be a surprise and they’ll tell you when to look away

You can tell them you don’t wanna know and they will make sure you only see an angle you can’t tell if it’s a boy or a girl at

we were asked at the beginning of the appointment, and we were told when to turn away. we even thought we'd spoiled it for ourselves but we were wrong when we found out later lol! you won't spoil it for yourselves, they'll tell you how to avoid it. they even had us look away at one point just in case while they were checking something totally different.

We didn’t find out for our son, we had very regular scans to measure his growth and the sonographer always avoided the area… once we went and both hubby and I said did you see a scrotum 🙈😂

You can tell them and they will have to respect your ask. Plus those techs go to school for a reason....idek how they differentiate between specifics beyond limbs 🤣

I remember asking for the gender at the anatomy scan. I didn’t look away at all and would not have been able to tell even when she was investigating!

If you tell them that you don't want to know they'll just have you look away for the genital portion of the exam. You can watch the rest of it. We didn't find out for my son and we had two anatomy scans because they couldn't visualize everything the first time- I had no idea what I was having until he was born (and I'm a nurse so I know a little more about ultrasound reading than the average person- they're very good at keeping the probe angled away from any identifying body parts when you don't want to find out!)
Mums, has this ever happened to you?
My 9-week-old was being held upright and for a second I took my hand away from supporting his upper back/neck. He suddenly flopped backwards quite far and it really scared me. He seemed completely fine afterwards and has been acting normally.
I know babies this age still have wobbly head control, but has anyone else had a similar moment? I think I just need some reassurance 😭
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Just had my 28 week appointment and baby is estimated 3lb 3 😅

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My girl is now almost 4 months and every now and then (everyday actually) I reminisce on my birth experience.
It definitely wasn’t as I pictured, I went in intending on all natural, my waters broke before contractions and when I arrived to the hospital the nurses didn’t believe me when I said bub was close and contractions were close and painful (turns out I was 9cm dilated within the time my waters broke and the 1.5hrs it took to get to hospital)
When I finally got a room after begging, baby girls heart rate was dropping and she ended up getting stuck and having the cord wrapped around her neck resulting in emergency c-section (the forceps and vacuum failed beforehand too)
I had been awake a whole 30hrs including this, I was so exhausted and shaking non stop.
Anyway my main point of this is I don’t remember them lifting her over the curtain to show me, even though my partner says they did, and I barely shed a tear when I held her for the first time, and when I fed her for the first time the nurse had to hold her because i continuously fell asleep whilst i was trying to soothe my dry throat with an iceypole at the same time.
Basically, I just feel so much guilt, i feel like i should have been more awake and full of adrenaline enough to enjoy the first time seeing my daughter, i live with this guilt everyday because i feel like i should have expressed more emotion. Please let me know if anyone has had a similar experience.

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Is there anyone from Portsmouth, able to tell me if they check for babies heartbeat at the 16 week midwife appointment still? I'm feeling super anxious this pregnancy so I'm hoping they will at my appointment tomorrow, but don't want to get my hopes up too much. I'll actually be 17+6 at tomorrow's appointment. Thank you x
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Hi everyone 🤍 I’m currently around 5 weeks pregnant and just looking for a bit of reassurance!
I’ve been having some mild cramping, quite similar to period cramps, which comes and goes. I don’t have any bleeding and it isn’t severe, but naturally I’m worrying about every little thing at the moment! 😂
I’ve submitted my maternity self-referral but I’m still waiting for it to be accepted, so I haven’t been able to speak to a midwife yet.
Did anyone else experience mild cramping around 4–6 weeks? Was everything okay with your pregnancy? 🤍
I’d love to hear your experiences! x

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Iron levels are fine. I’ve been doing some swimming to try and move my body a bit more but I still feel like I need a daily nap. Anyone else feeling the same?

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