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For those who may remember I put a post up a few months ago saying how i broke up with my baby’s dad and he doesn’t look after the child he’s already got!
I’m stressed tf out and it’s causing me pains!
He’s mum keeps messaging me and so does he when I said I’m not interested unless it’s to do with the baby! But they still message me about a child I had from a previous relationship! I feel like it’s trying to pressure me to get back with him when the thought of being with him makes me feel SICK!! He even got his mum a canvas of me and my child on it !! Like what! I told her I do not have to go through her to speak to my child’s dad. He told her that I’m breastfeeding the baby once she’s here and she messages me and says “well just formula feed her so we can have her sooner or pump” SORRY

I just want advice I’m so stressed and scared it’s going to cause me to go in to early labour 😭

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can’t you block them

^ this. Also, if you guys are broken up I think it’s extremely inappropriate for them to be in your business as much as they are. As you said, if it doesn’t concern your child together, they should just leave you be… and should only be between you and the dad!

Start ignoring texts if it doesn’t have to do with the baby. I wouldn’t respond to his mother at all to be completely honest. If it causes you stress don’t involve yourself. I would get a lawyer to have them put communication and visits in place already if they are talking about “having her sooner”. Make it very clear you are going to BF and that’s a nonnegotiable. I would say no unsupervised visits for a while if you are going to BF since she’s also talking about formula substituting and of you think she will do it anyways. Make things very clear in text so you can say you made it very clear to them in case they do go behind your back to do anything like that.

Omg I think we’re the same person 😭😭

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Just wondered if it would bother you or am I overthinking it?

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AITA

So my due date is in 10 days but obvs we don’t know when the baby will actually come. Anyway, my SIL is also pregnant (after 10 years of infertility) and I am so happy for her when I found out because the doctors had said they may never conceive. So she has her gender reveal on the 26th of April (which would be almost 2 weeks after due date) in either case I wouldn’t feel comfortable attending while newly postpartum and with a newborn baby where there will be lots of people I don’t even know, I said to my husband he should go just with my daughter, which he agreed but mentioned she might feel a certain way. I mean she needs to sort of be understandable, I just don’t want to put my baby at risk, and after I gave birth last time I made myself very unwell thinking I’m okay to go out and about earlier than I should. On top of this, she shouldn’t feel a certain way because in our culture it is crucial for the mum and baby to not leave the house for 40 days, and she knows this. Anyway I don’t think I’m being an Asshole, I just don’t want to put my baby at risk and especially because people from my country don’t know boundaries when it comes to babies (kissing them, holding them, passing them around)

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