Is it worth it to have a second when you had PPD and you don’t have a village?

I really want a second baby. Mine is only 6 months and the thought of leaving him without a sibling when he doesn’t have cousins kills me. I would love to have 2 to have a slightly bigger family - but I’m going through postpartum depression and I don’t live around any family or friends. I know postpartum depression won’t last (I hope) but I think about if I’ll be able to do it again everyday. And I worry about deeply regretting it because it takes my autonomy away even more.

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Begin by seeking help for your depression. Find things that bring you joy, try and implement 1 into each day to begin with and slowly build it up. Drink lots of water and eat nutritious food. Try and reduce your phone time and get out in the sunshine and outdoors. These things can be hard to do but they can do wonders, especially combined with faith.
Make your decision from there 🩷

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I would say, take care of yourself first and foremost before having more kids.
Having a sibling is not as important as having a healthy, happy mom.

That being said, I had very very bad PPD and PPA after my second baby that I had to work through. I was terrified when I got pregnant with my 3rd thinking it would happen again… never got it with my 3rd. The other thing, is I spent soooo long working through it after my second child, I developed so many coping skills that might have helped me the next time around.

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Maybe the question isnt if but when…
Now probably isnt the time … but maybe in 6-8 months uncan revisit it.
Try different things to remedy the post partum and try building a tribe. Maybe if you havent fet connected to a local non deniminational christian church with nursery so u can get a mini break and potentially connect with other mothers. Also your local library probably had “bouncing babies” and u can get out and maybconnect with other mothers.
Also supplements… like omega oil, good post partum multivitamins or food grade multivitamins can help counter ppd! Getting outdoors in the sun! High protein diet. Can all help with ppd.

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Look for counseling. See if you can find someone who specializes in Ppd (i know that can be super hard). Try to help yourself before bringing another child into the mix.

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