Just need to rant.. am I being unreasonable
When my partner helps with our toddler I just feel like it creates more work.
He agreed to feed her breakfast.. she feeds herself but wheatabix is still messy. He doesn't clean the high chair, Wipe the tablecloth or rinse/clean the dishes. Just leaves them all on the kitchen table.
He changes her out of her Pjs.. just leaves Pj's on the floor outside the washing machine.
He changes her nappy.. throws the nappy in the kitchen doesn't bother putting it in the bin.
'Watches' our toddler play. Doesn't interact with her or help her language development. Just sits on his phone and occasionally shouts at the dog.
I'm sick of it. When he'd done with breakfast he says 'I'm going to go have a shower'. I said there's no towels as they're all in the wash and need drying. "I'll manage"
I asked can't you just put the towels in the dryer and wait while I finish getting ready? (I already showered)
I'm 35 weeks pregnant, had about 2 hrs sleep and he's had 12.
I'm not sure what the point of this post is but I just needed to write it down because I'm tearful and hormonal. 🥺
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Girl i wouldn't have been pregnant with a 2nd baby to a man that useless. You've already got 2 kids. But it is what it is, you gota put your foot down on some things.. im a very cruisey person and partner but I take a hard line around things that matter. Hes taking the piss. Talk about things, tell him what isnt cutting it. And definitely isnt you being "emotional". Best of luck. Hope things improve
Honestly I’ve felt the same way at times. I’ve had to explain to him that it’s not helpful if he’s not going to follow through with the task and clean up after the kids. He is an adult that knows how to tidy up and is fully expected to, plus tidy is how I like to keep our home and i expect him to maintain it at that level as well. It took a lot of communication but he is starting to get it. My toddler is amazing at keeping her stuff picked up if you ask, she will put her clothes in her laundry bin and throw away dirty diapers and other trash, plus will wipe down her part of the table when prompted and given a wet rag. I think some people just need an extra push to do better. This is a very basic ask mama he needs to step it up!!
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