Anyone else think the worst piece of advice for a first time mum is ‘you’ll be able to tell when you are in labour’!

Looking back I was in early labour for over a week, and while my hospital records say my labour was 1hr 14 mins it was actually closer to 10 hours. But I didn’t actually realise I was in labour ‘cause there would be no doubt about it’ so I only just made it to the hospital really!

It doesn’t help that I also mistook ‘regular contractions’ to mean they must be coming at regular intervals eg 1 min on 4 mins off, not like mine which were more like 1 min on 5 mins off 40s on 3 mins off ect.

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I think this applies to active labor. When you're in the thick of it, there's no denying what's going on. It's just every subtle clue leading up to it that we miss 😂

I dunno they questioned whether I was actually in labour at the start of my labour. But there was no mistaking it. I went from 0 to 3 in 10 minute contractions. I was like yup this is labour! They went you sure. You sure youre sure. Me like well what else is this pain hmm? Put me on the monitor. Ah yes youre in labour. Theyre nice strong contractions.🤦‍♀️🤦‍♀️

Same! I kept waiting for that interval thing
I should have come, really, when my waters broke - I called the hospital - and they told me to still wait for that interval thing
Came to the hospital 10 cm dilated, head crowning, wanting to push - they did not believe me and asked me TO PEE IN THE CUP WHILST I WAS IN ACTIVE LABOUR

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Changed due date

Anyone had their date change at 12 weeks scan?

I used my last period and also fully tracked ovulation, I had a due date Oct 10.

In my 12 week scan they said Oct 15

Now I don’t know which to use as I know the 12 week scan can place things wrong due to the tiniest millimetre off measurement

What did others go by and what was accurate?

Second baby here!

Damp pants.. can your waters go incredibly slowly lol

Or did I pee 😅

I woke up this morning with a damp patch in my undies that I noticed when I pulled my pants up after a wee.. I did smell it and it doesn’t smell like wee and I got my husband to smell (lol) and it didn’t smell like wee to him either but I’m also very hydrated...

I have sat over the toilet and nothing is dripping out of me so I think maybe I just lost a bit of wee over night or just before I noticed?
I’m 39+3 FTM

No other real symptoms of labour just heavily pregnant discomfort

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Does anyone else lay awake all night unable to sleep due to hormones or overthinking? Gosh it’s so annoying!
Please tell me I’m not alone.

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Guys I'm 13 weeks but I'm already extremely terrified of birth and specially tearing and injuries down there. I'm thinking I'd rather suffer the pain from the c section than going through natural labour. I like the thought of everything being planned and I'd know what's going on. Any of you in a similar situation?

I’m having my baby tomorrow

I have just found out that I am going to be induced tomorrow. After a rough pregnancy this is the best decision for us I will be 39 weeks and 5 days. Anyone got any tips or advice to make the process smoother.