Sex and Relationships with Railey Molinario

Extremely frustrated

My husband and I don’t have enough sex for my liking (it’s April and we have had sex 8 times this year..) He works full time regular hours, I am a full time stay at home mom who homeschools our children. We both are busy, I try to make his day/life as easy as possible as I have been the working parent before and was also extremely tired. We used to have sex more often. We met when we were both young. His excuses have changed over time as to why it’s diminished. It’s been not wanting more kids in that moment, him being tired, getting older, and now it’s that he’s gained a good amount of weight after losing it so he doesn’t feel confident.

I’ve been with guys who were extremely over sexual to where it was a turnoff and abusive. The last thing I want is to be that person pressuring him for sex, being married doesn’t mean we own each other so I respect when he says no, however it’s been a big hit to my self esteem with me constantly trying to have sex and I keep getting shot down. I don’t feel desired or wanted, I want to be lusted after a bit. Is that so bad?

He tells me he loves me, he compliments me, we just don’t have enough freaking sex. Let me also say that I want another child and with our youngest getting older and him deploying soon it’s giving me anxiety since I can’t even get a nut out of my spouse (he’s gone soft a few times with me riding him🫠)

My question is, am I petty for growing a bit distant? It’s put me in a depressive episode at this point. I’ve had this conversation with him many times to where now I don’t even want to talk about it or initiate sex because I know what the answer will be and I can’t take it anymore. Are there men out there that just don’t care about sex? He’s actually complained before about me want too much sex which seems insane for a man to say? What kind of guy complains about his wife desiring him? You’d think we were 80 years old unable to walk im so over it 😞

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I feel like no one wants to meet my baby

Today was supposed to be the day part of my extended family meets my baby for the first time. She’s only met her grandparents, aunts, and uncle. But I found out yesterday that Easter get together was being canceled so they can go to some kids birthday party. All their kids are grown, so it’s weird to me that it’s a priority for them. Theirs been no other discussion about meeting her before the next family event (4th of July, she’ll already be 6 months old then). No other family on either side has contacted me or my husband about getting together to meet her besides my grandma. Am I supposed to be reaching out to them? No one’s even said anything to me since I’ve given birth. Idk if I’m over thinking this and I’m still just very hormonal, but I feel hurt. I don’t know what to do. I just want to do more things with my baby now that she’s 3 months old, including meeting all the people I care about. Any advice would be great, I’m not the best at communicating.
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Anyone Asexual?

I have pretty much struggled my whole adulthood with low libido and wanting to have sex with men. I don’t have any sexual trauma. I am attracted to them. I’m attracted a lot to my husband. No I’m not attracted to women even in the slightest. No sexual orientation confusion. I’m beginning to think that I’m asexual. I need help because it’s costing me my marriage. My husband wants sex way more than I ever do. If I don’t have sex for months I’m okay. Is anyone else asexual, if so, how are you combating it? Do you take any supplements to help? Did you speak to a therapist? What have you done to save your relationships when your husband thinks it’s because you’re no longer attracted to him? I’m so exhausted with feeling like this. I hate it. I wish I could desire sex the way a lot of women do.

Does monthly income should include money I receive for my kids ?

Doing one form at the moment and have to answer this question ? Do I only state the money I receive for myself ?

Lube recommendations

Can anyone recommend a good lube? We tried one other night (durex) and it made my partner go floppy!!!

5 months postpartum..

I’ve gained a lot of weight and my body is stiff from carrying my baby all the time. I am told by everyone to get fit again but I’m struggling to figure out where I can squeeze a workout in? The only real window I can do something for myself is in the evening but I’d rather put my feet up for a bit than workout. How is everyone’s fitness journey going? Has anyone started? And if so, how are you implementing it?

Partner not lasting

Every time me and my partner have sex roughly once a week he lasts about 10 seconds and it’s staring to bug me now as I don’t get any pleasure from it at all . Does anyone have experience of this and know why this happens ? He doesn’t want to talk about it so the issue isn’t getting resolved .