Anyone Asexual?

He needs to understand if you aren’t enjoying it, that’s crossing a certain line.

You should not force yourself to like sex when your body is closed off to it. That will backfire on you mentally very fast.

Say no, and tell him this. It is what it is. If he makes it a big issue, that’s wrong. He has a hand, it’s that simple. You’re ready when and if you’re ready. If he loves you, he won’t coerce you

I think it’s ok to be like this , don’t beat yourself up for it. Men’s ego gets bruised when u deny them sex, he is your husband and you are supposed to compromise and satisfy each others needs and that’s him understanding if you don’t want to do it and you also acknowledging that he is a married man and you cnt expect him to be ok with going months without sex. I think you need to keep reassure him all the time and explain to him how you feel and maybe see a therapist together, it may help him understand you better. You are ok the way you are dear .

Ah the dreaded dead bedroom. It's highly recommended during phases of low libido that you schedule sex. You and your husband come up with an agreed upon schedule and make sure you stick to it. Make it fun too like incorporate role play, games, sex toys, different positions etc etc. The more you do it, the more it helps kick start your libido.

Also see a sex therapist. Ain't no shame in it and you don't need a past history of trauma for them to be beneficial. They can better help you pinpoint the cause for the low libido.

What you can't do is simply tell your husband to just cope or get over it. He's human and sexual desire is only natural. Some men will stray eventually if the problem is not addressed. Good luck OP, rooting for you!