Birth Parter(s)

I’m embarrassed about this hence anon….from the start I’ve wanted my mum in the delivery room with me along with my partner. I’m extremely close with my mum. Partner would ideally not have her there, but accepts it’s my decision. I feel guilt over that.

However I’m concerned my Mum will tell everyone I’m in labour and end up taking over. I’ve got about 2 weeks to go and I don’t know how to best set boundaries without offending her. But if I don’t - I know I’ll end up getting stressed and asking her to leave anyway. I’ve asked that she give us space after baby is born and she’s agreed with that at least.

Has anybody been through something like this? I feel like telling her I’ve changed my mind and she can’t come on the day, however I do want her there for support - as long as she doesn’t overstep boundaries.

One thing I will never be with my child is overbearing like I’ve had all my life, because this is the consequence.

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Depending on how far from the place of birth she is, could you tell her you're in labour when you get to 7-8cm?

I rang my mum when we got to hospital and knew it was labour st 5cm dilation she arrived about an hour later and honestly I’m soo glad she took charge ! If she is over bearing you can always ask her to leave ? I was surprised at how much I needed/wanted my mum x

Have you finished your birth plan? I’ve shared mine with my mum and partner ahead of time and found it a good opportunity to talk about my wishes. I think my mum will be great and not take over etc., but it’s clear in the plan that he’s my advocate and ‘main’ person and she’s there as my mum and as additional support should he struggle. You could have an additional page that’s just for him and your mum, that he knows about already, that says your wishes about information sharing about labour and the baby “just in case I’m not up to talking about the plan on the day”.

So the way im going around this is having her there well in labour but as soon as im about to give birth ask her to leave so that she is there but not fully then my partner can go tell her im okay and baby okay and then give us space to be with her alone x

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Birth Parter(s)

I’m embarrassed about this hence anon….from the start I’ve wanted my mum in the delivery room with me along with my partner. I’m extremely close with my mum. Partner would ideally not have her there, but accepts it’s my decision. I feel guilt over that.

However I’m concerned my Mum will tell everyone I’m in labour and end up taking over. I’ve got about 2 weeks to go and I don’t know how to best set boundaries without offending her. But if I don’t - I know I’ll end up getting stressed and asking her to leave anyway. I’ve asked that she give us space after baby is born and she’s agreed with that at least.

Has anybody been through something like this? I feel like telling her I’ve changed my mind and she can’t come on the day, however I do want her there for support - as long as she doesn’t overstep boundaries.

One thing I will never be with my child is overbearing like I’ve had all my life, because this is the consequence.

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