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My boyfriend and I have discussed in therapy multiple times and have agreed, I will have sex at least once/ twice a week, where I will initiate. I have mentioned before how much of a chore sex becomes because if he doesn’t get it, he’ll treat me mean the next day. This is why we agreed to what we agreed on, sex once/ twice a week. If he wants anything more he will have to initiate, which he hates doing, and understand that I’m not horny 24/7 like he is. There’s times I’m just not into it, but I tell him take what he needs to for himself. He says he hates taking from me. Ok, fair.

We have had sex three times this week. This morning he tried rubbing me and I was not into it. So he got upset. I’m a SAHM, he pays for everything. This morning before he left to work he says I’m not loving him, & then proceeded to say I just use him for money. & walked out. I was initially upset about the comment cause wtf?

I just got a haircut yesterday.
I hardly ever spend anything on myself, it’s always for the kids.
I’m just annoyed. & irritated. & he just keeps coming to me today trying to argue about shit that I have no energy to argue about.

I just need to vent cause I’m so fucking annoyed.

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& to be fair I’m the primary parent. He owns his own business so he works all the time. The kids are with me all the time. I work just as hard at home as he does out in the field.
All this because he didn’t get his dick wet last night, pleassse.

Yup been there before. When you’re the primary parent. At the end of the day when you lay down and finally put the kids to bed the last thing that’s on your mind is sex. Like you’re literally touched out. When I finally had a minute to myself and just wanted to lay down my bf at the time wanted to cuddle, have sex and etc and I was never into it. He never understood either!

So he only uses you for sex and doesn’t love you, according to his own logic?
But seriously, ask him if he thinks you’re his personal prostitute as he seems to believe that him paying for everything means he should have
access to sex anytime he wants.

And him mistreating you for simply not being in the mood? Seriously? What does he do to give you space to be in the mood? Again, if it’s just the paycheck he sees you as a prostitute

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